I see so many people who are living out their partnerships or marriages passing like ships in the night. And it’s very lonely. You may or may not recognize that apathy has snuck into your relationship, as you go about living parallel lives.  Most of these couples are conflict-avoidant and the distance that they feel between them is played out covertly, not openly. But they may look “fine” to the world since there’s little to no arguing and most pragmatic things in the relationship are tended to and watched after. We’ll touch on this dynamic and then, of course, “what you can do about it,” as I describe a method of trying to reestablish a sense of partnership and trust.

Trigger warning: The listener email for today is from someone who has a compulsion to carry a defensive weapon that could end endangering her job – and asks what she can do about it. If you’ve had violence or abuse in your history, this discussion may be triggering for you. So please listen with care.

Important Links:

As promised, the early SelfWork episode on the I to I technique and learning the skills of good listening.

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