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      1. This is so true especially when your living in physical pain everyday and you feel like you are not living you are just existing.

  1. I’ve never had a friend commit suicide, but when my first husband died, I was angry with him. Angry about unresolved issues. Angry that he left me with a huge mountain of debt and no money to pay it. I knew nothing about either of these until after he died. Margaret, I’ll remember your post and pass it along should I know of someone who could benefit from it. Brenda

  2. I’ve never had a friend commit suicide, but when my first husband died, I was angry with him. Angry about unresolved issues. Angry that he left me with a huge mountain of debt and no money to pay it. I knew nothing about either of these until after he died. Margaret, I’ll remember your post and pass it along should I know of someone who could benefit from it. Brenda

  3. I hope you are not in this kind of pain Elizabeth. But if you are, I have had patients whose physical pain certainly was diminishing their ability to find purpose in their life. I remember one woman who had lost the ability to work and do many things she had formerly enjoyed. She told me, with tears in her eyes, that her purpose was to be interested in her husband – to still give to the relationship what she could. That was her answer. I remember her courage very well. But I am sure it is an extremely difficult road.

  4. My mother in law has lived through the suicides of her brother in law (overwhelmed by a disabled son and a diagnosis with a poor prognosis, he killed himself while his wife and son were out of the house) and a nephew (bi-polar). Now, she has just found that a former walking buddy plans to take action (he is dependent on medical equipment to remain alive) to discontinue use of the equipment. He will probably die within the week, or so she is told. I can’t imagine what she is thinking right now.

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