shutterstock_50257990If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.

I heard that as a child frequently.  Something I am glad I was taught.

Nowadays I have to watch being perfectionistic.  Remember to breathe and keep things in perspective.

I am sure some of you are like that.

This whole National Blog Posting Month – NaBloPoMo – was a challenge to that streak.  A post a day for 30 days.  Gone was the going back and forth about certain phrases or words.  Gone was the “letting the idea percolate”.

For 30 days, I have had to learn to trust myself in a new way.  As a blogger.  Trust stretching some.  Trust more spontaneous ideas.

I talk a lot about trust as a therapist.  Just how do we begin to trust?

The words – “It is enough”- come to mind.   Allowing yourself to feel that you have ENOUGH information to take action.  Or to believe.  You could always have more.  But you have enough.  That’s decided.

Then there is always a leap of faith.

To trust myself to publish a post that I had spent maybe 2 hours on?  When prior to NaBloPoMo, I was spending 6 to 8?  I said, as calmly as I could muster, “It is enough as it is”.  And then – LEAP!

Obviously, posting a blog does not carry the weight of many of the therapeutic issues people discuss with me.  Trying to regain trust in a spouse that has cheated.  Rebuilding a sense of safety after abuse or trauma has been suffered.  Just believing in yourself again after you have done something tremendously disappointing or have suffered from severe depression or anxiety.

My point is this.  The process is similar.

If my little NaBloPoMo journey is any inspiration – to trust yourself  and take risks –  that would be delightful.

If it’s worth doing, it’s worth doing well.  This was definitely worth doing.  I have learned bunches.

And 30 posts have been accomplished – with less perfectionism, some definite fun AND new relationships with supportive bloggers crunching through together.

Thank you for coming along with me.


I will rest for just a while.




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