The Ten Characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression

The Ten Characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression

I’ve been writing for three years now about a syndrome called Perfectly Hidden Depression. These are people who are inwardly struggling with depression, at times severe depression. But others would never guess that they were. They can act both intentionally, but...
Do You Have Perfectly Hidden Depression? Four Ways To Heal

Do You Have Perfectly Hidden Depression? Four Ways To Heal

I’d like you to introduce me to someone. The person is not a stranger.  You’ve gone to bed with them every night for years. They’re right there, waiting for you when you wake up in the morning. She, or he, is a part of you that stays hidden — a...
5 Steps To Avoid The Anxiety Of Comparing Yourself To Others

5 Steps To Avoid The Anxiety Of Comparing Yourself To Others

I am going to tell you a true story. Might only happen in a therapy practice in a small town. I had a female patient. A mom. Had her kids in a local private school. She had come in to work on abuse from her past. What she hated about herself was how she worked so hard...
Are You Depressed And No One Knows It But You?

Are You Depressed And No One Knows It But You?

She is the young career woman who years ago woke up in a hotel room. Not remembering how she had gotten there. Alone. Half-naked. Realizing she had been raped. She never told anyone. “It’s never really bothered me,” she tells me now. Smiling. She...
Why I Didn’t Leave. Until I Did.

Why I Didn’t Leave. Until I Did.

The discussion of why women don’t leave. I have been listening. There has been excellent conversation noting the complexity and reality of the danger an abused woman faces. The impact of the emotional abuse and isolation she has likely suffered for months or...