The Parents Left Behind

A parent whose child has died has an excruciatingly painful look in their eyes. There are no words that can truly comfort — no experience to share that will ease their despair. All I’ve ever had to offer is my experience with others who’ve gone...

090 SelfWork: Living Through the Unthinkable Death of A Child

“You know the second that it happens, you feel your heart rip open and you know that everything’s changed and you’re just never the same again. And so… we call it a rebuilding. You spend your time rebuilding your life after the death of your...

088 SelfWork: How to Handle the Loneliness of Grief and Loss

I’ve never talked to anyone who was dealing with grief and loss that didn’t feel lonely in that grief. Whether it’s a death, an illness, divorce, coping with the drug addiction of a loved one, whether it’s sudden or long-lived loss, you’re walking...

Three Ideas on How To Cope With The Loneliness of Loss

You get divorced and people ask for a few weeks how you’re doing. Your dad suddenly dies and, within the month, you’ve received several notes from people who knew him and loved him. Your oldest child was diagnosed with autism and people who’ve walked...

What Is Healthy Dependence In A Relationship?

Everyone’s talking about co-dependence. You know it’s not a good thing, or something you want. But what exactly is it? The word “co-dependent” emerged years ago to describe a set of behaviors or choices by someone who was in relationship with...