Three Ideas on How To Cope With The Loneliness of Loss

You get divorced and people ask for a few weeks how you’re doing. Your dad suddenly dies and, within the month, you’ve received several notes from people who knew him and loved him. Your oldest child was diagnosed with autism and people who’ve walked...

What Is Healthy Dependence In A Relationship?

Everyone’s talking about co-dependence. You know it’s not a good thing, or something you want. But what exactly is it? The word “co-dependent” emerged years ago to describe a set of behaviors or choices by someone who was in relationship with...

When Gratitude Backfires: How Depression And Gratitude Relate

Everywhere you go these days, you see reminders to be grateful. Oprah started it long ago, or that’s when I remember hearing it for the first time. She had couples keeping gratitude lists — things they were grateful for about one another. It’s a good...

How To Make A Difference For Others, And For You

The past couple of weeks have been full of emotion. I grieved as I watched people I love saying goodbye to their husband and father, and also my friend. I have prayed along with others as another friend had surgery and begins coping with treatment for life-threatening...

When The Holidays Bring The Memory Of Loss

December 17th, 2007.  The day my mom died. I can remember where I was standing when my brothers called me. 9:23 am — in my kitchen, in front of the stove. It was odd hearing from Spencer that morning. His halting, but loving voice came over the line....