Celebrating Life. A Post About Grief And Gratitude

Celebrating Life. A Post About Grief And Gratitude

This is a special weekend for me. I’m headed to my hometown to be with my brothers and their wives. It’s the day, a decade ago, when my mother died, and then my father a week later. I’ve written about their lives and their deaths before. My mom, a...
014 SelfWork: When Gratitude Backfires

014 SelfWork: When Gratitude Backfires

http://traffic.libsyn.com/drmargaretrutherford/014_SelfWork_When_Gratitude_Backfires.mp3Podcast: Play in new window | DownloadSubscribe: Android | RSSGratitude is a wonderful thing, right? It definitely is when it’s demonstrated and expressed in relationships,...
A Little Gratitude Goes A Long Way In A Marriage

A Little Gratitude Goes A Long Way In A Marriage

My husband has a lot more patience than I do. So he does a lot of the things around the house that require that particular virtue. I try hard to show my gratitude. He fills up the little pump thing to the left of the kitchen faucet that holds dishwashing liquid.   He...
What’s The Difference Between Being Selfish And Being Self-Aware?

What’s The Difference Between Being Selfish And Being Self-Aware?

Sometimes, in therapy, I find myself explaining the difference between being self-centered or selfish, and being self-aware. When I do, I suspect I am talking with someone who is hiding depression. Someone with perfectly hidden depression. Their belief? “If I ask for...
When Gratitude Backfires: How Depression And Gratitude Relate

When Gratitude Backfires: How Depression And Gratitude Relate

Everywhere you go these days, you see reminders to be grateful. Oprah started it long ago, or that’s when I remember hearing it for the first time. She had couples keeping gratitude lists — things they were grateful for about one another. It’s a good...