What Do I Do If Someone I Love Commits Suicide?

What Do I Do If Someone I Love Commits Suicide?

The pain feels unbearable. Someone you love chose to end their life. Maybe they left you a note, maybe they didn’t. Maybe you knew they were in agony, struggling with inner demons or with harsh realities of severe physical or mental illness. Maybe you...
What Are You Teaching Your Daughter About Her Body?

What Are You Teaching Your Daughter About Her Body?

Sometimes, something hits a nerve. Last year, I read Anne Parris’ post on Midlife Boulevard. She offered this Dove commercial for discussion, highlighting the unintentional messages about body image that mothers give daughters. It shocked me. The subject? Moms...
How To Cope When Your Sexual Abuse “Never Happened”

How To Cope When Your Sexual Abuse “Never Happened”

Being sexually abused does horrific damage. When you resist, after your father has raped you almost daily since the age of eight, and he pulls a gun on you, you crumble. You are a thing to him. Not a daughter. When you are studying with a guy and supposed friend in...
How To Step Away From Paralyzing Shame

How To Step Away From Paralyzing Shame

I didn’t think I would ever get married again. I had had a chaotic ten years. I had ended two marriages, both for different reasons. But the thread between them was me. I was ashamed. I certainly didn’t trust my judgment. And I never thought I would tell...
25 Not So Little Things To Celebrate In 25 Married Years

25 Not So Little Things To Celebrate In 25 Married Years

My marriage is 25 years old this week. What would I whisper in that bride’s ears if I could? What would I tell her that she would be grateful for these 25 years later? It would be the little things. The smiley-face post-it notes left in your car, reminding you...