170 SelfWork: Resilience, Vulnerability, and Finding Purpose
Today we’re talking about the relationship between resilience and vulnerability and how those two things are an integral part of living a purposeful life. I’ll use some quotes from one of my...
169 SelfWork: The “New” Evidence On What Makes Therapy Effective
Today we’re going to cover two of the most frequent questions I hear — how to find a therapist and how you know a therapist is right for you. The title of the episode has “new” in quotes...
How Can You Be Vulnerable As An Adult When You Were Never Safe As A Child?
It’s no wonder why being vulnerable is so hard for so many. You learn to feel safe in the families you grow up in. If you were lucky you saw two fairly healthy parents who supported each...
A Surprising Way To Help Your New Years Resolution Stick
It’s the time of year when people are talking about New Year’s resolutions. You search with renewed determination to change behaviors that make you unhappy; maybe you’re successful and...
Reaching Peace Within Yourself: What I Learned From My Dad About Compromise
“Margaret, life is about compromise.”
That’s what my dad used to tell me from time to time.
Considering the massive amount of wisdom I’d accrued by the age I first heard him say this, probably around 20 or 21, I remember feeling that my father’s early health problems had colored his thinking. I silently shook my head, and believed he was focusing on the negative — on what you gave up in life. I was sure that with enough effort, and maybe a little good luck thrown in, you could achieve exactly what you wanted.
How To Keep A Positive Attitude On Aging: The Technique Of Reframing
One of the most debilitating fears you can have is the fear of aging — not simply the fear of looking older, but the fear of time itself passing. Maybe that’s because of regret or...
Strong Men Do Therapy
If you go to therapy, are you weak? After watching hundreds of people face pain they thought they couldn’t, reveal secrets that had been haunting them for decades and ruining their lives, the...
Anger. Is It Respected, Avoided, or Abusive In Your Life?
Anger. There’s a lot of it out there. My office is on a narrow one-way street that isn’t well marked as such. The other day there was a big cement truck traveling the wrong way; it pulled over...
How To Deal With The Fear Of Judgment: The Gifts of Vulnerability
When I first moved back to Arkansas, there were facts about my life I didn’t want others to know. I’d grown up in a small town in southern Arkansas, where everybody knew everything about...
The Gifts Of Vulnerability
Vulnerability is a gift.
Being vulnerable isn’t the same as being scared or admitting defeat. In fact, knowing and accepting it is actually a strength. Why? Because you can get really good at recognizing when those pesky, at times painful vulnerabilities are in action, and how they’re skewing your thinking or your choices.
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