319 SelfWork: What’s Really Going To Bring You Happiness? A Conversation with Bob Waldinger
Bob Waldinger’s publicist used these words to describe him – “warm and humble.” That can be hard to find… and I knew I wanted him to be our guest here on SelfWork. He has...
318 SelfWork: Ashley Stahl Is Guest Host! Eleven “Mind Shifts” For 2023
Ashley Stahl and I met when her book You Turn came out – and to prepare for her interview on SelfWork, not only did I read her book, I watched a couple of her TedTalks – yes she has two! And I...
Self-Control versus Self-Acceptance: Which Can Lead to True Change In 2023?
I’ve already seen them. The Instagram reels. The tweets. The posts. The morning talk show interviews about hundreds of pounds lost. All of them talking about how to set and make your goals for...
What Do You Value More? 3 Steps to Help You Respond, Not React
There’s a simple mantra out there that can really help with self-control, especially emotional self-control – “Respond not react.” Sounds simple and easy, right? It’s...
Five Ways To Be Your Best Self During A Divorce
What’s a “good” divorce? I’ve heard it said that a good divorce is the one that never happens; of course that’s idealism, not realism. Obviously, many of us do get...
SelfWork YGTG: This Short Poem Describes Incredible Change And How to Make It
I use all kinds of stories and metaphors in therapy to help people actually remember a point. I’m not sure when I started doing it, but there’s something about a story or a picture that cements or...
Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination
“Honey, did you Venmo the gardener?” “I meant to but forgot.” “Did you remember to call that new client?” “Yeah, but I didn’t get to it…”...
Bingeing Or Comfort Eating? Five Ways For Comfort Eating To Stay Comfortable
I have two distinct memories that involve eating. One horrified me, the other brought a sense of being understood.
I, like most others, had a small fridge in my dorm room in college. I was beginning to develop anorexia, but hadn’t a clue at the time. I was eating less and less, and receiving all kinds of accolades for becoming thin.
285 SelfWork: How To Build Self-Regulation, Self-Control, and Self-Motivation
My mom used to write T H I N K on my forehead as a child. Ugh. I hated that! ! But it was definitely her way of trying to teach me self-control, a skill that I didn’t have much of as a child!...
283 SelfWork: Not Drinking Tonight: A Conversation with Retired-Party-Girl-Turned-Therapist Amanda White
I first found Amanda White on Instagram, as she’s the therapist behind Therapy For Women – a popular Instagram mental health group. But then I learned more about her. Her book came out...