SelfWork YGTG: This Short Poem Describes Incredible Change And How to Make It
I use all kinds of stories and metaphors in therapy to help people actually remember a point. I’m not sure when I started doing it, but there’s something about a story or a picture that cements or...
Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination
“Honey, did you Venmo the gardener?” “I meant to but forgot.” “Did you remember to call that new client?” “Yeah, but I didn’t get to it…”...
Bingeing Or Comfort Eating? Five Ways For Comfort Eating To Stay Comfortable
I have two distinct memories that involve eating. One horrified me, the other brought a sense of being understood.
I, like most others, had a small fridge in my dorm room in college. I was beginning to develop anorexia, but hadn’t a clue at the time. I was eating less and less, and receiving all kinds of accolades for becoming thin.

285 SelfWork: How To Build Self-Regulation, Self-Control, and Self-Motivation
My mom used to write T H I N K on my forehead as a child. Ugh. I hated that! ! But it was definitely her way of trying to teach me self-control, a skill that I didn’t have much of as a child!...
283 SelfWork: Not Drinking Tonight: A Conversation with Retired-Party-Girl-Turned-Therapist Amanda White
I first found Amanda White on Instagram, as she’s the therapist behind Therapy For Women – a popular Instagram mental health group. But then I learned more about her. Her book came out...
275 SelfWork: The Why, How, Who, What, When, and Where of Sharing Your Story
This question came up in a couple of scenarios this week. So, I decided to go with the synergy of that and focus on the decisions surrounding self-revelation – or telling your story....
How to Stop Feeding Your Insecurity
We say things like this all the time… to other people. “You’ve got it all together.” “I could never handle all the things that you do – and you don’t even...
274 SelfWork: “Weeds Are Flowers Too”: Working Thru Disappointment
A.A. Milne’s character Winnie the Pooh – Eeyore – the droopy eyed donkey who Winnie loves, has many famous quotes. But this is one of my favorites, especially when thinking about...
How To Keep A Positive Attitude On Aging: The Technique Of Reframing
One of the most debilitating fears you can have is the fear of aging — not simply the fear of looking older, but the fear of time itself passing. Maybe you have regrets about missed...
How Can You Be Vulnerable As An Adult When You Were Never Safe As A Child?
It’s no wonder why being vulnerable is so hard for so many. You learn to feel safe in the families you grow up in. If you were lucky, you had two fairly healthy parents who supported each...