214 SelfWork: Three Ways to Govern Your Emotions (Rather Than Them Governing You)
If there’s ever been a time when we need to manage our emotions, it’s now. None of us are sure what these next few months will bring – or even 2021 – and that’s true on many fronts. So this week’s...
Why Self-Acceptance Is Crucial When You’re Fighting Depression
What does depression feel like? Andrew Solomon, a journalist and author who has suffered with severe depression wrote, “The opposite of depression isn’t happiness, but vitality.”...
Five Surprising Ways To Help Your New Years Resolution Stick
As you look forward to a new year and the hope that it brings, especially after a year which brought with it so much pain and uncertainty, you may be jotting down New Year’s resolutions. After...
Five Strategies to Deal With Empty Nest
As a therapist, I try to focus not just on concepts, but on tangibles to help people make concrete changes in their lives, no matter what issues they are facing.
This goes for facing an empty nest as well. There are very specific things you can do to help yourself get on with life after empty nest.

Three Steps in Learning to Respond – Not React
As the pandemic continues, perhaps you’re sheltering in place with family and finding that communications with others are breaking down more easily. Or perhaps you’re feeling that your...
192 SelfWork: Are You Embarrassed To Be Embarrassed?
Today we’re going to talk about embarrassment. I was listening to Brené Brown’s relatively new podcast called Unlocking Us and heard her use a term I didn’t know. The term was self-conscious...
Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination
I told myself when we first quarantined that I’d clean out the bathroom drawer where I keep my hairdryer. It’s August and it’s still not cleaned out. Maybe this newly revamped...
185 SelfWork: Zoom & Doom? Tips on How To Make Telemental Health Work For You
Today we’re talking about telemental health. I asked lots of people about their experience and have some of the most recent research for you. I’d already investigated this because BetterHelp is a...
If “Having It All Together” Is Intimidating, Think Again. Maybe It’s About Risk.
We say things like this all the time… to other people. “You’ve got it all together.” “I could never handle all the things that you do – and you don’t even...
180 SelfWork: What Do Crying and Emotional Intelligence Have In Common?
I’ve watched hundreds of people cry over the years. Some will do everything in their power to stop it while some allow them to come easily. But it’s a very moving moment when you see and feel...