246 SelfWork: Building Everyday Compassion: A Conversation with LinkedIn’s Scott Shute
Every day I receive a bunch of emails from publicists, publishing houses, or teachers on every subject you could think of to suggest either themselves or their client to be a guest on SelfWork. It’s a flattering problems to have. But some are very unique, like this one from LinkedIn’s...
Guilt and The Borderline Mother (Or Wife or Daughter or Friend): Nine Ways to Work Through It
Your phone rings; you look down and her name appears on your screen. Sadly, you dread clicking over…and then comes the guilt. Your history with her rushes into your mind as you wait for one more ring. You’re reminded of all the times that you’ve rushed to her side, comforted her,...
245 SelfWork: “How Could I Not Have Known?” The Shock of Sudden Suicide
Sometimes I receive an email that tears at my heartstrings. And this week was one of those times. I’ll read you the email – the heads up is that it’s about a sudden and totally unexpected suicide that led its writer to reach out to me about perfectly hidden depression with the question – Can...
Five Steps to Overcome The Fear of Giving Up Perfectionism
The steps in this post are the basis for the treatment for the kind of depression I discuss in my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression – which at its most severe, can become deadly – as the pressure to never fail, to never falter becomes more and more intense. If you’re a...
SelfWork YGTG: Simone, Stigma and Suicide
On today’s You Get the Gist, I’m wanting to make a couple of points that may or may not have occurred to you while you heard about or you were watching Simone Biles’ journey at the Olympics. First, I wondered what your first thought might’ve been when you heard Ms. Biles had initially opted...
244 SelfWork: Why We Lie (Even In Therapy)
Today we’re going to focus on why we lie to each other, to ourselves and even in therapy. We’ll touch on severe manipulative lying, called pathological lying, and compulsive lying, but most of the episode we’ll discuss plain old lying. I found two wonderful articles on the...
Should A Therapist Have Walked the Same Walk As You? My Perspective
After the 2016 presidential election, I got a call from a potential client, and she asked a question I’d never received before, “I need to know who you voted for.” I’ve been a therapist for over twenty-five years. I’d been asked if I was divorced, married, how old I...
243 SelfWork: Handling Sudden Loss: A Personal Story
This week was very hard as one of my close family members died suddenly. I didn’t know if I’d have the energy or even the ability to do a podcast. So, I looked for one that I might add on to – maybe about grief. And I found this podcast from a year and a half ago that fit. I’ll focus...
Feeling Invisible and How To Confront The Shame You’ve Never Deserved
A lot of people feel invisible, for many different reasons. Perhaps you’re one of them; but what do you mean by “feeling invisible?” Perhaps you feel like you don’t matter, as if you aren’t a vital part of the world that’s going on around you. Maybe you feel overlooked by those who...
242 SelfWork: The Over-Apologizer: Are You One?
Do you or someone you know apologize all the time? This can stem from several dynamics – if you’re in an abusive relationship currently or there was trauma in your childhood where you’ve grown up believing that the fault when relationships or events go sour is somehow all yours. There’s also the...
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