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Three Vital Reasons To Say “I’m Sorry” In Your Marriage

“Love means you never have to say you’re sorry.” Those words were emblazoned on a poster of Ali McGraw and Ryan O-Neal, the tragic lovers from the 1970 hit “Love Story,” which my sixteen year-old self had absorbed with teenage belief. I couldn’t wait to get into...

111 SelfWork: How to Stay Out of Texting Trouble

Today texting is the topic and I’m talking about how to keep texting safe and healthy in both a relationship and in families. We’ll reference an article by Christine Schoenwald featured in Psych Central who talks about the six ways it can cause problems. But I’m going to stress how...

What Is Healthy Dependence In A Relationship?

Have you or someone you know recently said, “We’re so codependent.” A bunch of folks are using the term, but what exactly is it? You sense it’s not a good thing, or something you want. But when did we start talking about? And what does it actually mean? The beginning of...

Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much

“I don’t know if I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to.” “Sometimes I just want to it to be over. But I know I have you, and that keeps me from doing anything.” If you hear these words from a friend or someone you care about, they hopefully send a shiver up your spine. That...

108 SelfWork: How to Keep Comparison from Stealing Your Joy

In this episode we’re talking about how to use comparison of yourself with others in a way that’s healthy and healing rather than creating a harder, more jealous or more insecure you! I’ll tell some of the stories I’ve witnessed and a couple of my own to move the discussion along, and help you see...

Five Steps To Avoid The Anxiety Of Comparing Yourself To Others

There’s an old saying — comparison is the thief of joy. You betcha. It’s one thing to actively participate in a competition, where you intentionally decide to be part of a team or  choose to make some huge individual effort in a contest. You either win or lose. You’re...

107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not

Today we’re focusing again on Perfectly Hidden Depression, but this time we’re talking about what PHD is not. I received two emails in the same day this week and thought someone had sent theirs twice. But they were actually sent by two different people. Both of their first sentences...

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