183 SelfWork : Clearing Up Confusion About Perfectly Hidden Depression
Wow. Questions about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) are pouring in! And of course that gives me a thrill. But also there’s understandable confusion. Perfectionism is supposed to be about anxiety, not depression, right? (The answer is yes and a definite no.) Is the depression that’s...
How To Not Hate Your Body: Three Ideas That Work (Without Losing One Pound..)
Sometimes I get emails that tear me up with their honesty and vulnerability. Here’s one that particularly touched me. “I wanted to tell you that I really enjoy your podcast! I always look forward to the 20-30 minutes where I can just relax and listen to your discussion. I have always...
Nine Essential Steps After Divorce: How To “Get Along For The Children’s Sake”
I didn’t think I was going to be a mother. For a long time, I hadn’t wanted to be. I thought I was lacking the gene that made you want to wipe noses, sing lullabies, or run carpool. I loved my nephews, but didn’t connect with the desire to make the bulk of my day about answering...
182 SelfWork: Filler or Fulfillment? Five Ways to Figure It Out
Today we’re going to talk about staying busy – not the welcome kind of busyness where you’re actually doing things you love that bring you fulfillment, but the kind of busyness that basically serves as filler in your life. You couldn’t tell me why you’re doing it, or how you got started – other...
How To Know If You Experience Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Questionnaire
There is a kind of depression that we’re missing in mental health. It’s not easy to detect, because when you have it, you hide it. You know what you’re doing, in a way. Your gut knows something’s wrong. And in the quiet of the night, the loneliness you allow yourself to...
181 SelfWork: The Facts About Nervous Breakdowns
Today we’re going to focus on what people mean when they say someone they love “had a nervous breakdown.” What does that phrase really mean and is it a real thing? Or some kind of slang we’ve adopted to describe something we don’t really understand. On this episode of SelfWork, sponsored by...
Letting My Heart Show: A Surprisingly Vulnerable Interview with Lewis Howes (in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month)
An energetic, loving, very happy and successful-looking mother of three took her own life three weeks ago. That is horribly sad in and of itself. But then her friend relayed to me what her husband had found on her night stand — my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression. My eyes filled with...
180 SelfWork: What Do Crying and Emotional Intelligence Have In Common?
I’ve watched hundreds of people cry over the years. Some will do everything in their power to stop it while some allow them to come easily. But it’s a very moving moment when you see and feel someone break through some emotional wall or barrier they had built – and allow themselves to connect with...
What I Want This Mother’s Day I Need to Give To Myself
This Mother’s Day won’t be like any other Mother’s Day. For this is the Mother’s Day of Covid19. My mind isn’t too much on gifts. But I wondered what I might want, if I got that opportunity. The first gift I might wish for is far too dangerous, for it has to do with...
179 SelfWork: How to Build Your Own Resilience (The Healthy Way)
There’s a worldwide recognition that we can never be grateful enough for the things we so often take for granted. And there are many who are facing this current “unprecedented” stress with that kind of gratitude. Others are struggling more. So how is it that some seem more resilient than others?...
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