Are You As Grown Up As You Think You Are? Four Steps to Take A Look
What does it mean to feel grown up? Feeling mature perhaps, or decisive. Knowing that you’ve figured some things out — that you’re no longer following more adolescent impulses. You can be more objective about yourself and others. Maybe it means feeling competent to take care of...
161 SelfWork: How Does Therapy Work?
What happens in therapy that can be helpful? How does it work? These are basic questions that were brought to my attention during my recent interview with Lewis Howes on his podcast The School of Greatness. He and his team bring what they consider “great” ideas and ways of being to his listeners....
SelfWork 160: The Sexless Marriage. Is There A Way Back?
Welcome to 2020 and more SelfWork! First, thank you to everyone who’s purchased Perfectly Hidden Depression and left reviews. Those show up on Amazon as a verified purchase and are extremely important, offering even more validity. So if you’ve been reading PHD, and when you’re done, two sentences...
The Question That Will Kill Good Parenting And Seven Ways To Avoid It
When my son was a three year-old, and “No!” was his favorite expression, my husband and I decided upon a strategy. We hadn’t had a clue how draining parenting could be, and we only had one kid. What did we do? We banned the word “tired” from our vocabulary. Of course,...
A Surprising Way To Help Your New Years Resolution Stick
It’s the time of year when people are talking about New Year’s resolutions. You search with renewed determination to change behaviors that make you unhappy; maybe you’re successful and this will be the year that you’ll maintain that resolve. If so, that’s wonderful. But if...
Five Frank Tips for Enjoying Your Family This Holiday Season
What can help you through spending time with family this holiday season? Dr. Margaret shares five frank suggestions to figure out how to do just that. Happy Holidays!
When Tragedy Happens: How to Fight Helplessness
A horrible tragedy happened this week in my hometown of Fayetteville, Arkansas. Not all of the details are known, especially not the “why.” But a young police officer was murdered while sitting in his patrol car in back of the station, preparing for his late night shift and waiting for...
SelfWork 159: When It’s Over – Healing From Rejection and Replacement
Coping with rejection in a relationship, whether it be a friendship or partnership or a marriage, can be very difficult. But to add to the hurt, you can also learn that your ex has moved on quickly — or perhaps had moved on while still in a relationship with you. And that can lead to a...
When Love Isn’t the Problem, Apathy Is. The Pain of Living Parallel Lives. (SelfWork #158)
I see so many people who are living out their partnerships or marriages passing like ships in the night. And it’s very lonely. You may or may not recognize that apathy has snuck into your relationship, as you go about living parallel lives. Most of these couples are conflict-avoidant and the...
Is There True Joy In The Holidays? Not If You’re Perfectly Hiding Depression
Perfectly hidden depression. What is it? It’s depression that’s so deeply disguised you might not even know it’s there. You feel something in your gut; you may sense something is wrong but even if you search the symptoms of depression, nothing fits. And you shame yourself for...
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