195 SelfWork: The Suck It Up Episode: Why You Struggle to Feel
Today’s topic was weirdly and almost synergistically created. As I was researching emotional expression, two quite different sources led me to the work of Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett. I’ll share her and Dr. Tim Lomas’ work with you today, as we discover an entirely new way of...
194 SelfWork: How To Make Change Stick
I had a patient say to me the other day, not in a complaining way, but sort of in a “can’t believe it” kind of way – “I’ve been in therapy with you now for a year. I thought I’d be here for maybe a couple of months.” I want to share a bit of his story as well as others who’ve used therapy not to...
The Boundary-less Couple: Victims and Savers
Boundaries. What in the world does that word really mean when it comes to relationships? A boundary is a limit, an edge, where one thing stops and another begins. When someone says, “I don’t have good boundaries,” what do they mean? Generally, they allow other people to...
Three Steps in Learning to Respond – Not React
As the pandemic continues, perhaps you’re sheltering in place with family and finding that communications with others are breaking down more easily. Or perhaps you’re feeling that your emotions are a bit more difficult to contain. If so, this post is for you. There’s a...
193 SelfWork: A Conversation with John Moe, author of The Hilarious World of Depression
John Moe first got my attention when I became a podcaster and listened to his very popular podcast The Hilarious World of Depression. What makes him unique and truly loved by his listeners is his transparency about his own depression and his very wry sense of humor. After making a living as a...
Part Two! Perfectionism Meets Pandemic: A Free Workshop with Dr. Margaret
Round Two is coming your way! I had both many women and men attend the Part One of this free workshop on July 30th and their questions were both poignant and intriguing. Part One explained the potential dangers of perfectionism and what exactly perfectly hidden depression is and why it occurs. If...
192 SelfWork: Are You Embarrassed To Be Embarrassed?
Today we’re going to talk about embarrassment. I was listening to Brené Brown’s relatively new podcast called Unlocking Us and heard her use a term I didn’t know. The term was self-conscious emotions and embarrassment is one of them. In this episode sponsored by BetterHelp, we’ll cover...
Are We Teaching Our Children to Be Perfectionists?
What are you teaching your child about admitting vulnerability? About feeling something that they don’t want to feel, but do? About revealing hurt or pain? About depression? Maybe you don’t even believe children can be depressed. But you’re wrong. Depression in kids is on the...
Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination
I told myself when we first quarantined that I’d clean out the bathroom drawer where I keep my hairdryer. It’s August and it’s still not cleaned out. Maybe this newly revamped episode should be entitled “Procrastination Meets Pandemic.” “Hey, did you get that...
191 SelfWork: The Ten Most Common Mental Mistakes (aka Stinkin Thinkin)
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is all about discovering your mental mistakes or cognitive distortions – or as the CBT folks say, “Your stinkin thinkin.” And CBT is the most recommended therapeutic method to fend off depression. It makes sense. It’s fairly easy to understand. And...
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