The Muddle of Menopause and Midlife Depression: Five Common Sense Remedies
The year the world turned 2000, I was 46. Midlife was upon me. A few people were stockpiling water and supplies, zealous about the world coming to an end. Others were impatiently awaiting spectacular fireworks on New Years Eve, toasting one another gaily with Dom Perignon. (Or perhaps a less...
132 SelfWork: Where Do I Begin If I Want A Better Relationship? Change What You Do, What You Say and What You Think. That’s All.
Is therapy really helpful when a relationship is in trouble? And what are the kinds of things you need to realize about therapy that might increase the chances of it being effective? Let’s talk about what’ s important in choosing a couples therapist, but also I’ll offer a roadmap...
How To Not Be Victimized By Empty Nest. Letting Go With Intention.
My son is traveling at breakneck speed through the last semester of his college days.
Graduation is two weeks away.
He’s making decisions about his future — carving out a life for himself that will hopefully prove productive and fulfilling.
131 SelfWork: When Your Dad Isn’t A Dad. The Effects of Father Hunger
Father hunger… when your dad isn’t or wasn’t available or connected with you either due to divorce, death or disinterest — causes many problems for a child and the family as a whole. But the numbers are staggering of how many homes are without dads. There are so many...
The Perfectly Hidden Depressed Person: Are You One?
You know her. She’s always smiling and appears to have everything together: a good marriage, a thriving business, and a couple of kids who do well in school and athletics. She started the book club you’ve been going to for years, is the PTA president, and her employees rave about working...
130 SelfWork: The Power of Failure and What You Can Learn From Flying a Kite
No one particularly likes to fail. And what does it have to do with flying a kite? In this episode, we’ll talk about the power that failure can have in your life and what can help you learn from it. Because failure is inevitable. And far too many people shame themselves for failure and then...
What’s A Nervous Breakdown? Answers to Common Misconceptions About Depression
No one welcomes depression. The brilliant writer Andrew Solomon describes his own severe depressive episode. “All I wanted was for “it” to stop; I could not have managed even to be so specific as to say what “it” was.” He quotes Emily Dickinson’s poem, the...
129 SelfWork: Challenging and Changing Negative Self-Talk
We’re talking self-talk here today. What is it? And what can you do about it? A lot of people tell me they kinda “know” what it is, but haven’t a clue how to change it. It feels as if it’s too elusive. How could you possibly rein in what your mind is telling you about something? I’ll...
The Ten Characteristics of Perfectly Hidden Depression
I’ve been writing for three years now about a syndrome called Perfectly Hidden Depression.
These are people who are inwardly struggling with depression, at times severe depression. But others would never guess that they were. They can act both intentionally, but also unconsciously, to deny and avoid pain or suffering. And they do it quite well. In fact, perfectly.
128 SelfWork: What Happens When You Quit Perfectly Hiding Depression? You Find Grief.
Dr. Jennifer Ashton of ABC News was interviewed this week as she revealed the suicidal death of her ex-husband. She stated quite clearly that he displayed none of the signs of depression that she had studied in medical school. None of them. I need to read her new book on surviving the...
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