Five Steps to Overcome The Fear of Giving Up Perfectionism
The steps in this post are the basis for the treatment for the kind of depression I discuss in my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression – which at its most severe, can become deadly – as the pressure to never fail, to never falter becomes more and more intense. If you’re a...
SelfWork YGTG: Simone, Stigma and Suicide
On today’s You Get the Gist, I’m wanting to make a couple of points that may or may not have occurred to you while you heard about or you were watching Simone Biles’ journey at the Olympics. First, I wondered what your first thought might’ve been when you heard Ms. Biles had initially opted...
244 SelfWork: Why We Lie (Even In Therapy)
Today we’re going to focus on why we lie to each other, to ourselves and even in therapy. We’ll touch on severe manipulative lying, called pathological lying, and compulsive lying, but most of the episode we’ll discuss plain old lying. I found two wonderful articles on the...
Should A Therapist Have Walked the Same Walk As You? My Perspective
After the 2016 presidential election, I got a call from a potential client, and she asked a question I’d never received before, “I need to know who you voted for.” I’ve been a therapist for over twenty-five years. I’d been asked if I was divorced, married, how old I...
243 SelfWork: Handling Sudden Loss: A Personal Story
This week was very hard as one of my close family members died suddenly. I didn’t know if I’d have the energy or even the ability to do a podcast. So, I looked for one that I might add on to – maybe about grief. And I found this podcast from a year and a half ago that fit. I’ll focus...
Feeling Invisible and How To Confront The Shame You’ve Never Deserved
A lot of people feel invisible, for many different reasons. Perhaps you’re one of them; but what do you mean by “feeling invisible?” Perhaps you feel like you don’t matter, as if you aren’t a vital part of the world that’s going on around you. Maybe you feel overlooked by those who...
242 SelfWork: The Over-Apologizer: Are You One?
Do you or someone you know apologize all the time? This can stem from several dynamics – if you’re in an abusive relationship currently or there was trauma in your childhood where you’ve grown up believing that the fault when relationships or events go sour is somehow all yours. There’s also the...
SelfWork YGTG: Is Therapy Self-Indulgent?
For today’s YGTG, or “You Get the Gist,” I was pondering what a patient of mine said the other day. He had to struggle a bit with the idea that therapy – for him – felt a little self-indulgent. He followed quickly up by saying, “I know it’s because I rarely if ever focus on...
How To Not Be Victimized By Empty Nest. Letting Go With Intention.
My son is traveling at breakneck speed through the last semester of his college days.
Graduation is two weeks away.
He’s making decisions about his future — carving out a life for himself that will hopefully prove productive and fulfilling.
241 SelfWork: The Hidden Opponent in College Athletics: A Frank Conversation with Victoria Garrick
The Hidden Opponent is the name of D1 College Athlete Victoria Garrick’s TedTalk. And it’s powerful. Who is she? She’s a former Division I Volleyball Player, TED Talk Speaker and has now become a social media Influencer, and mental health advocate. Those are the facts about...
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