Seven Problems and Seven Solutions for Feeling “In Love”
Being “in love.” How do you maintain it? How do you keep from experiencing what I have heard so many people say, “I love her, but I’m not in love with her any more.” Is it luck? Hard work? A choice? Yes, all of these and more. Over the years, I’ve had many...
072 SelfWork: The One Question To Ask Yourself If You Take Things Too Personally
Today’s podcast identifies the one question that you can ask yourself before you take things too personally. I’ve heard lots of couples bicker and fight over the twenty-five years I’ve been a therapist, and this question will save you from so many assumptions and...
How to Learn Emotional Self-Control and Healthy Communication
There’s a simple mantra out there that can really help with self-control. Especially emotional self-control. It’s, “Respond not react.” Sounds easy, right? It’s not. Learning how to control your reactions to what’s being said or done around you can be difficult....
071 SelfWork: The Disease of Perfectionism
Today’s topic is perfectionism. I call it a disease in the title because it can cause not only emotional and psychological problems when it’s out of control, but the stress of perfectionism can lead to illness and even suicide. I talked with a phenomenal expert on perfectionism last...
The One Question You Can Ask to Stop Fighting With Your Partner
For many of us, summer is around the corner. Maybe that means a much anticipated vacation with some all-too-rare time together with your partner. Or maybe that is something you dread, because you fear fighting. You love your partner and you value your relationship, but the two of you have...
070 SelfWork: How To Love Someone Who Won’t Get Help
What do you do when you love someone who won’t get help for their depression or anxiety? This episode, sponsored by Audible.com, will focus on what my own research has found, and how we can talk about mental health treatment or therapy in a way that would make it far easier for men to...
Getting Emotionally Divorced: Three Ways Social Media Prolongs the Process
The hardest part of a divorce is often not the legal part; sometimes that’s just a drop in the bucket. Getting emotionally divorced. That’s the actual kicker. The emotions seem never-ending and come from all directions. Anger that can so easily turn into bitterness. Sadness from...
069 SelfWork: The Victim-Savior Relationship. How You Get In It and How You Get Out Of It
We’re going to be talking about healthy and not so healthy relationships today. Many relationships get their start with one person “saving” another. These are boundary-less relationship and they’re doomed for trouble. The victim gets tired of being the victim. The savior...
Saying Goodbye to The Good, The Bad and The Indifferent
Our family lovingly call the house I grew up in just by its address, 1203. A few years ago, I, like many people, had to say goodbye to a home I’d loved. I’d done it before. I’d departed several homes, either due to moves or divorces. I’m a “nester” like many...
068 SelfWork: How To Create A Family Of Choice
What is a family of choice? It’s a family you create with friends. Some of us don’t have families that we can count on in times of stress or need, or joy for that matter. Instead of staying bitter or lonely, I’ve come up with five “caveats” in finding people who would...
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