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Five Steps To Avoid The Anxiety Of Comparing Yourself To Others

There’s an old saying — comparison is the thief of joy. You betcha. It’s one thing to actively participate in a competition, where you intentionally decide to be part of a team or  choose to make some huge individual effort in a contest. You either win or lose. You’re...

107 SelfWork: What Perfectly Hidden Depression Is Not

Today we’re focusing again on Perfectly Hidden Depression, but this time we’re talking about what PHD is not. I received two emails in the same day this week and thought someone had sent theirs twice. But they were actually sent by two different people. Both of their first sentences...

Ten Ways To Stay Out Of Texting Trouble

“Text me.” That request would’ve sounded crazy 25 years ago. Now it’s the way many of us communicate. I like to text. It’s easy and fun and it often makes a lot of things more convenient, opening up time in my day to be more productive. Or to binge on a little Netflix. However,...

106 SelfWork: Why Couldn’t I Have Figured This Out Sooner?

You may have asked yourself this question once or many times — “Why Couldn’t I Have Figured This Out Sooner?” In this episode of SelfWork, we’ll talk about the grief you may need to feel after asking yourself this question and the role of self-compassion in its...

The Red Bucket Man

Someone reached out to me this week. “Every time I see the red bucket man, I think of you, and put a little money in the bucket.” That warmed my heart. One of the great gifts that blogging has brought me is the many people I’ve learned from and communicated with here locally in...

Binge-Watching Grace and Frankie? Get Ready to Face Your Fears

Binge-watching Netflix, or binge-watching anything really, had never sounded appealing. But that was before I started writing a book and desperately needed something to distract me from my own brain. So… here came Grace and Frankie to my rescue. It’s the story of two women knocking 70,...

105 SelfWork: When Comfort Eating Becomes A Problem

Today we’re going to talk about your relationship with food and I’ll share a couple of stories about my own journey there. We’ll identify the difference between comfort eating and binge eating… and we’ll discuss the fairly new field of food addiction. I’ve had several gastric-bypass...

104 SelfWork: How To Break The Bickering Habit

Bickering is a bad habit. These are fights that are practically scripted – you know what your partner is going to say and they know what you’re going to say before you ever say it as well. But you can recognize these patterns and figure out what you’re actually fighting about. Things like...

How To Avoid A Long Hauliday

People can dread the holiday season for a number of both simple and complicated reasons. If it’s loss.. You might have had losses or trials in your life that overwhelm any attempts to celebrate; you remember past holiday seasons with tears in your eyes. You’re not sure how you’re...

Finding Meaning In Friendships That End

I remember the first Christmas break after my freshman year in college. My high school friends and I had just seen each other at Thanksgiving. Everything had been fantastic — lots of reminiscing as well as catching up, laughing about someone sporting a new beard or talk about who was still...

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