Recent Articles

Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?

Nobody likes a whiner. Who might fit this bill? Let’s say you’re filled to the brim with self-pity or a sense the world is against you. You can’t get a break. Bad things seem to always happen to you. Promotions don’t come your way. Your kids never call enough or come by....

146 SelfWork: Your Questions About Perfectly Hidden Depression

It’s been Suicide Awareness Week here in the US so I wanted to feature your questions about the well-researched but still largely unrecognized signal for potential suicide risk — what I term perfectly hidden depression. You have great questions. The first is from a writer who is losing...

The Shame No One Talks About In Sexual Abuse

Note: If you’ve been sexually abused, this article may trigger a response — memories, anxiety, nightmares. Please read with care. I can’t count the times that someone, male or female, has been looking out the window so their eyes won’t meet mine, and I hear,...

144 SelfWork: Three Steps Toward Creating Motivation That Works

Getting motivated for change and maintaining that change can be tricky business. Willpower. Self-discipline. Focus.All are touted as necessary for achievement of your goals. But where does self-acceptance come into this? And what about understanding what’s underneath the change you maybe...

Feeling Invisible and How To Confront The Shame You’ve Never Deserved

A lot of people feel invisible. And for many different reasons. What do I mean by “feeling invisible?” Like you don’t matter. As if you aren’t a vital part of things. As if you are being overlooked or seen only for what you can do instead of for who you are. You’re an object — not a...

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