How To Know If You Experience Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Questionnaire
There is a kind of depression that we’re missing in mental health. It’s not easy to detect, because when you have it, you hide it. You know what you’re doing, in a way. Your gut knows something’s wrong. And in the quiet of the night, the loneliness you allow yourself to...
181 SelfWork: The Facts About Nervous Breakdowns
Today we’re going to focus on what people mean when they say someone they love “had a nervous breakdown.” What does that phrase really mean and is it a real thing? Or some kind of slang we’ve adopted to describe something we don’t really understand. On this episode of SelfWork, sponsored by...
Letting My Heart Show: A Surprisingly Vulnerable Interview with Lewis Howes (in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month)
An energetic, loving, very happy and successful-looking mother of three took her own life three weeks ago. That is horribly sad in and of itself. But then her friend relayed to me what her husband had found on her night stand — my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression. My eyes filled with...
180 SelfWork: What Do Crying and Emotional Intelligence Have In Common?
I’ve watched hundreds of people cry over the years. Some will do everything in their power to stop it while some allow them to come easily. But it’s a very moving moment when you see and feel someone break through some emotional wall or barrier they had built – and allow themselves to connect with...
What I Want This Mother’s Day I Need to Give To Myself
This Mother’s Day won’t be like any other Mother’s Day. For this is the Mother’s Day of Covid19. My mind isn’t too much on gifts. But I wondered what I might want, if I got that opportunity. The first gift I might wish for is far too dangerous, for it has to do with...
179 SelfWork: How to Build Your Own Resilience (The Healthy Way)
There’s a worldwide recognition that we can never be grateful enough for the things we so often take for granted. And there are many who are facing this current “unprecedented” stress with that kind of gratitude. Others are struggling more. So how is it that some seem more resilient than others?...
Eleven Ways To Help Your Child With Your Divorce
Divorce between two people who don’t have children, versus two people who do, is a different animal. Children often look and sound like they’re okay. At first they want to know about how it’ll affect their lives, if Santa Claus will come to Mommy’s house too, or will both...
178 SelfWork: How To Safely Talk about Pain from Your Past
How do you set up a situation where you can safely talk about something painful from your past? Today’s episode was sparked by a listener telling me that she’d been sexually abused, and is now dissociating during sex with her very loving husband. He’s aware of her history, but hasn’t a clue...
177 SelfWork: Sleep or Sex? How to Balance Both of Your Needs and Desires
Sleep and sex – how does a couple balance out these two needs and desires? How many times have I heard a couple argue about whether or not they’re having enough sex. One will usually say I’m too exhausted. The other feels rejected. Both feel unappreciated and hurt. I’ll offer a couple of...
Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much
“I don’t know if I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to.” “Sometimes I just want to it to be over. But I know I have you, and that keeps me from doing anything.” “You’re the reason I can go on.” If you hear these words from a friend or someone you care about,...
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