Facing The Fear of Telling Your Truth and Being Demeaned
Let me take you back in time. I was on a first date with a guy named Jeff. I’d vetted him prior to our date, checked with people that I knew that he knew, etc. By all reports, he was nice, having earned his Ph.D, from the same program that I was currently slugging my way through. The usual...
255 SelfWork: The Trilogy of Trouble – Jealousy, Envy and Possessiveness
We’re going to talk about what I term a “trilogy of trouble” today, or basically how jealousy, envy and possessiveness can sabotage a relationship or commitment. This can happen in personal as well as professional relationships, but we’re mostly focused on personal aspects of the...
SelfWork YGTG: When I Am Old I Shall Wear Purple…
Today’s You Get the Gist is a short bow to my own aging process – as today is my birthday! It became clear to me last week that when someone is using such figures as Colonel Sanders to encourage you to keep on keeping on – something has shifted! lolol.. So I looked for stories of...
Five Things to Learn About Codependence and Interdependence
“We’re so codependent.” This phrase is thrown around a lot these days; sometimes it sounds like people are bragging about how close they are with their partners. Others are lamenting how much time they’ve had to spend home with their significant other during the pandemic....
254 SelfWork: Celebrating Our 5th Anniversary! So Meet the Gang!!
I truly can’t express how I feel about SelfWork being alive and well and celebrating its 5th anniversary! I couldn’t do it without the listeners, the commenters, those who’ve emailed, those who’ve left ratings and reviews, those who listen week after week – or those...
What Can Signal A Risk For Suicide? When You’re Perfectly Hiding Depression
I’ve written a book about what I term perfectly hidden depression. It describes the phenomenon of leading a perfect-looking life on the outside, while carrying around a tremendous amount of silent despair – which can tragically lead to suicide. When what “seems” is far from...
253 SelfWork: The Loss Of Innocence: When Mom or Dad Sexually Abuses
Welcome to a difficult episode of SelfWork, sponsored by BetterHelp. First of all, I need to state a trigger/content warning for anyone listening who was forced manipulatively, physically or sexually into a sexual relationship with a parent or grandparent. I’ve done an episode on sibling sexual...
Three Vital Reasons To Say “I’m Sorry”: A Simple Way to Improve Your Relationship
“Love means you never have to say you’re sorry.” Those words were emblazoned on a poster that hung in my room in my high school years. Ali McGraw and Ryan O-Neal, stars of the hit movie “Love Story,” were blissfully gazing into a future of no conditions or...
252 SelfWork: Is My Depression About My Relationship Or Is It Me?
Today I want to focus on the confusion that anyone can have about what’s causing their depression. And the important question is, “Is it me or is it my relationship?” The episode is in answer to an email I received from a 20-something listener but is a confusing problem for...
Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?
It’s difficult to be around someone whose always whining. What does whining sound like? “I can’t get a break.” “Bad things seem to always happen to me.” “Wow, you’re lucky. My kids never call.” “My ex took my best years and I’ll...
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