171 SelfWork: Breaking the Habit of Beating Yourself Up
Today we’re going to cover literally how to begin to stop beating yourself up in a way that may surprise you a little. Because the behavior can seem as if you’re being extra careful or caring. But the habits of beating yourself up – the ways you maintain or fuel that self-doubt – can lead you...
Three Hurdles in the Fight With the Black Dog of Depression
During this challenging time, I share this post again in the hope of helping those of you already suffering from depression, for whom that depression might be worsened by anxiety and isolation, and even for those who want to stave off potential depression as we all manage greater levels of...
The Seven Gifts Of A Long “Healthy Enough” Marriage
My husband and I have been married almost thirty years. A while back we started trying out Blue Apron, the service that brings weekly meals and recipes to your door. His joking words the other morning were, “I’m liking Blue Apron. It’s nice after soooo loooong together to have...
170 SelfWork: Resilience, Vulnerability, and Finding Purpose
Today we’re talking about the relationship between resilience and vulnerability and how those two things are an integral part of living a purposeful life. I’ll use some quotes from one of my favorite books – Man’s Search for Meaning by Dr. Victor Frankl, which is one of those books you read...
Is Perfectly Hidden Depression Real? Or Is It My Personality?
How does your personality develop? It’s a mixture of your genetic makeup, what you receive (or don’t receive) from your family in childhood — what kind of safety and nurturing they provided — what your experience is of your culture and the world around you in the years to come.
169 SelfWork: The “New” Evidence On What Makes Therapy Effective
Today we’re going to cover two of the most frequent questions I hear — how to find a therapist and how you know a therapist is right for you. The title of the episode has “new” in quotes because often what’s old is new again, and that’s certainly the case here! We’ll go...
168 SelfWork: The What, Why, When, Where and How of Setting Boundaries
My dad used to say to us as kids, “Your rights end where someone else’s nose begins.” And that’s where I began learning about boundaries. Psychological boundaries are those that define where your own personal limits are as to what is emotionally harmful, and what is not. And that is unique to...
What’s The Difference Between Self-Centeredness, Selfishness and Self-Awareness?
Do you believe, “If I ask for something I want, I’m being selfish?” Or does it make sense to you that there’s a huge difference between being selfish, self-centered and self-aware? Let’s talk about those differences. First let’s take self-centeredness. Here’s an...
How To Make A Difference For Others, And For You
What I do for a living offers constant perspective. I hear every day about what can happen in people’s lives, both the good and the not so good. I hear about tragedy, abuse, and I hear about tremendous courage in the facing of it. But I also hear about the kindness of others. How a...
167 SelfWork: Is It OCD, GAD, Bipolar, BPD or Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD)?
There are certain diagnoses that may be co-occurring with perfectly hidden depression (PHD) or could be confused with PHD. And the last thing I want is for anyone to label themselves PHD or identify with PHD and stop there – when instead, you may need to recognize that you’re experiencing...
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