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Understanding And Overcoming Procrastination

I told myself when we first quarantined that I’d clean out the bathroom drawer where I keep my hairdryer. It’s August and it’s still not cleaned out. Maybe this newly revamped episode should be entitled “Procrastination Meets Pandemic.” “Hey, did you get that...

Announcement: Perfectionism Meets Pandemic Free Workshop!

Hello everyone! Quick announcement today! I’m giving a free two-part workshop that begins this Thursday, July 30th at 6:00 CST and will continue on August 13th at the same time. It’s entitled Perfectionism Meets Pandemic and is hosted by The Sisterhood for Success! It’s on the...

190 SelfWork: The Power of Withdrawal

There’s a psychological dynamic called approach/avoidance and it’s when something you desire has both positive and negative implications. But the same words are used in considering relationships, where approach/avoidance (or withdrawal) can lead to a true deadlock and constantly recycle itself,...

How To Forgive Yourself: Five Not So Simple But Important Steps

Most of us are spending more time alone these days, and that might be causing us to look back on past actions with regret. If you’re having a difficult time forgiving yourself for some of them, then this post is for you.   The word forgive has several meanings. “To grant...

Seven Ways To Get Back To Being “In Love”

Many of us are spending more time than ever with our partners. So we’ve updated this post from two years ago to help any of you who are struggling with your feelings toward someone with whom you were once far more in love. Falling in love can turn your world upside down. You feel as if each...

189 SelfWork: My Story and The Cost of Battling for Control

Transparency about my own journey with mental health has been very important to me, especially since writing on social media. And I’ve named the illnesses that I’ve experienced: panic disorder and anorexia.  But I haven’t told my story. The “why” of either of these problems – at least...

188 SelfWork: Four Steps Toward Risking the Unfamiliar

Risking the unfamiliar is something I focus on with almost every client I see, because we all get in the habit of adopting one emotional “face” – or have one emotion that’s our primary go-to response to almost anything. Some of those responses are more healthy than others, but the point of this...

Catching Your Perfectionism and Shame — The Art of Mindfulness

I’m sharing this post from a couple of years ago with you because I hope it could be helpful for those of you struggling during this pandemic. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help you during moments when you’re feeling overwhelmed due to anxiety or any other emotion. A lot of...

When Are You Old? 24 Surprising Answers to That Question

I remember being chastised by my parents to “act my age.” I was all of seven so I’m not sure what that was supposed to mean. Not act like a six year old I guess. Probably what it meant was to stop talking, which I did a lot. But when are you old? When does the shift occur where...

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