085 SelfWork: Six Hurdles to Confronting Perfectionism and Perfectly Hidden Depression
Perfectionism is one of the chief traits of Perfectly Hidden Depression. We’re going to be talking about confronting perfectionism – the first thing is to realize you’re not going to do it...
Perfectly Hidden Depression and The Suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain
Kate Spade was renowned for her taste and rock star creativity. A whole generation of women were caught up in carrying her bags or wearing her latest garb. It sounds as if she was a genuine, caring...
060 SelfWork: Unmasking The Pain Of Perfectly Hidden Depression
As promised, today’s episode is about peeling off the mask of Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD). Thousands of you have listened to the episodes on PHD, and I’d love to hear from you...
Perfectly Hidden Depression: How To Take Off The Mask Of Perfectionism
Perfectionism. Over-responsibility. Discounting painful emotion or past trauma. Chastising yourself if you’re not counting your blessings. Always being there for others, but sharing very...
057 SelfWork: The Real Voices Of Perfectly Hidden Depression
Perfectly Hidden Depression (PHD) is a topic I’ve been researching and writing about for over three years, and many people have written me about their own experience with the syndrome. In...
What Are We Teaching Our Children About Vulnerability?
I’d like to talk about something that may be hard. I want to talk about depression — and what we may be teaching our children about revealing vulnerability. Or not teaching them. Lots of...
What Is “Self-Compassion”? How To Learn To Connect With Your Own Pain
Sometimes painful emotions feel like they may kill you.
Perhaps J.K. Rowling of Harry Potter fame said it best.
“I DON’T CARE!” Harry yelled at them, snatching up a lunascope and throwing it into the fireplace. “I’VE HAD ENOUGH, I’VE SEEN ENOUGH, I WANT OUT, I WANT IT TO END, I DON’T CARE ANYMORE!”
032 SelfWork: The Nine Paths To Perfectly Hidden Depression
Hiding or detaching temporarily from emotional pain is a healthy skill. If you have something hurtful happen, but you need to “get your act together” in order to work, or watch children,...
Lipstick, Lotion and Lashes. Do They Tell Your Entire Story?
Shelby Lambidonis revealed what has been underneath her bright smile, infectious laugh and beautifully applied lipstick. She risked telling her truth – her entire story.
Nine Paths That Lead To Perfectly Hidden Depression
How do you learn to hide pain?
What is it about hurt, vulnerability and sadness that makes many of us form a persona of happiness and busy-ness that shields us from the eyes of others? Why do we push ourselves to build a life that looks perfect from the outside, but can feel empty and despairing on the inside?
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