Are We Teaching Our Children to Be Perfectionists?
What are you teaching your child about admitting vulnerability? About feeling something that they don’t want to feel, but do? About revealing hurt or pain? About depression? Maybe you...
Catching Your Perfectionism and Shame — The Art of Mindfulness
I’m sharing this post from a couple of years ago with you because I hope it could be helpful for those of you struggling during this pandemic. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help you...
186 SelfWork: When You’ve Lost Yourself
Getting lost in a relationship. .. if you’ve ever done it, you know the sinking feeling in your gut that comes when you think about it again. Somehow your “self” – the you that you knew before the...
Real Men. More Suicide. What Will It Take For Men To Seek Help?
This post was originally written over five years ago. Sadly it’s more true today than it was even then. With all that we’re dealing with these past months worldwide, I fear things will...
How To Know If You Experience Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Questionnaire
There is a kind of depression that we’re missing in mental health. It’s not easy to detect, because when you have it, you hide it. You know what you’re doing, in a way. Your gut...
Letting My Heart Show: A Surprisingly Vulnerable Interview with Lewis Howes (in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month)
An energetic, loving, very happy and successful-looking mother of three took her own life three weeks ago. That is horribly sad in and of itself. But then her friend relayed to me what her husband...
What Is “Self-Compassion?” How To Learn To Connect With Your Own Pain
Sometimes painful emotions feel like they may kill you.
Perhaps J.K. Rowling of Harry Potter fame said it best.
“I DON’T CARE!” Harry yelled at them, snatching up a lunascope and throwing it into the fireplace. “I’VE HAD ENOUGH, I’VE SEEN ENOUGH, I WANT OUT, I WANT IT TO END, I DON’T CARE ANYMORE!”
173 SelfWork: What’s New with Perfectly Hidden Depression?
Just because I’ve written a book about perfectly hidden depression (PHD) doesn’t mean that I’m through with learning about it. With each person that I’ve heard from, or has joined my practice...
Three Hurdles in the Fight With the Black Dog of Depression
During this challenging time, I share this post again in the hope of helping those of you already suffering from depression, for whom that depression might be worsened by anxiety and isolation, and...
What’s The Difference Between Self-Centeredness, Selfishness and Self-Awareness?
Do you believe, “If I ask for something I want, I’m being selfish?” Or does it make sense to you that there’s a huge difference between being selfish, self-centered and self-aware?...
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