215 SelfWork: Ten Fears You Choose to Face When You Risk Giving Up Control
Today’s podcast is one that, if you’ve been listening to SelfWork for a while, you know that this topic has been my own personal passion – as it’s closely aligned with my work on perfectly hidden...
Why Self-Acceptance Is Crucial When You’re Fighting Depression
What does depression feel like? Andrew Solomon, a journalist and author who has suffered with severe depression wrote, “The opposite of depression isn’t happiness, but vitality.”...
Is There True Joy In The Holidays? Not If You’re Perfectly Hiding Depression
Perfectly hidden depression. What is it? It’s depression that’s so deeply disguised you might not even know it’s there. You feel something in your gut; you may sense something is...
Kids Are Getting More Depressed. Ten Things You Can Do.
I recently watched “13 Reasons Why,” a Netflix series depicting a young increasingly depressed teenage girl losing the fight with her will to live.
It’s based on the book by the same name.

Are We Teaching Our Children to Be Perfectionists?
What are you teaching your child about admitting vulnerability? About feeling something that they don’t want to feel, but do? About revealing hurt or pain? About depression? Maybe you...
Catching Your Perfectionism and Shame — The Art of Mindfulness
I’m sharing this post from a couple of years ago with you because I hope it could be helpful for those of you struggling during this pandemic. Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help you...
186 SelfWork: When You’ve Lost Yourself
Getting lost in a relationship. .. if you’ve ever done it, you know the sinking feeling in your gut that comes when you think about it again. Somehow your “self” – the you that you knew before the...
Real Men. More Suicide. What Will It Take For Men To Seek Help?
This post was originally written over five years ago. Sadly it’s more true today than it was even then. With all that we’re dealing with these past months worldwide, I fear things will...
How To Know If You Experience Perfectly Hidden Depression: A Questionnaire
There is a kind of depression that we’re missing in mental health. It’s not easy to detect, because when you have it, you hide it. You know what you’re doing, in a way. Your gut...
Letting My Heart Show: A Surprisingly Vulnerable Interview with Lewis Howes (in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month)
An energetic, loving, very happy and successful-looking mother of three took her own life three weeks ago. That is horribly sad in and of itself. But then her friend relayed to me what her husband...