How Can You Be Vulnerable As An Adult When You Were Never Safe As A Child?
It’s no wonder why being vulnerable is so hard for so many. You learn to feel safe in the families you grow up in. If you were lucky you saw two fairly healthy parents who supported each...
165 SelfWork: The Deep Mourning of Sudden Death: When Time Will Not Stop
Kobe Bryant’s family is only one of the many families who have to face an extremely harsh tragedy – the traumatic death of someone they love. There is a difference in this kind of grief...
What is the Best Valentines Gift You Can Give Yourself?
In the second grade, I was elected “Valentine Queen” of my class. I wore a glittery paper crown all day long and dreamed of future ascensions. Miss Pine Bluff. Miss Arkansas. Miss...
164 SelfWork: Coping with the Fear of Depression’s Return
I’ve had several people write to me lately and explain that they are just pulling out of a slump or even worse, clinical depression. And they’re scared. Is there a time frame for what’s supposed to...
163 SelfWork: Emotional Growth: An Exercise In Self-Compassion
In today’s SelfWork, we’re going to be talking about how to enrich your emotional life through self-compassion. So many people tell me that they don’t know how to begin to risk feelings that have...
Are You As Grown Up As You Think You Are? Four Steps to Take A Look
What does it mean to feel grown up? Feeling mature perhaps, or decisive. Knowing that you’ve figured some things out — that you’re no longer following more adolescent impulses. You...
161 SelfWork: How Does Therapy Work?
What happens in therapy that can be helpful? How does it work? These are basic questions that were brought to my attention during my recent interview with Lewis Howes on his podcast The School of...
When Tragedy Happens: How to Fight Helplessness
A horrible tragedy happened this week in my hometown of Fayetteville, Arkansas. Not all of the details are known, especially not the “why.” But a young police officer was murdered while...
What It Takes To Be Real: This Is “My” Brave
This is a story about being brave in a different way – by letting others more fully into my own mental struggles. To actually be the real me. And it involves letting others see me cry....
Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?
Nobody likes a whiner. Who might fit this bill? Let’s say you’re filled to the brim with self-pity or a sense the world is against you. You can’t get a break. Bad things seem to...
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