1. This post is lovely! I especially like the quote about empowerment. FYI, I’ve decided my word for 2016 is “empowerment,” so of course that stood out to me. And yes, letting go of things with intention when the time is right, is such a centering feeling. Letting go without checking out: one of the most worthwhile goals I can think of in life. Striking that balance is a lifelong pursuit, but I feel considerably calmer when I’m able to achieve it.

    1. Thanks Estelle! It’s been great so far! The last three years have been filled with discovery and excitement. I’m looking forward to it – as well as continuing to grow my relationship with my son. I appreciate the comment! Love what you’re doing on Psychology Today – good luck with that!

  2. I am taking a positive attitude too. I will miss my little girl like mad, but look forward to having holidays in June or September or whenever I want. I am pleased that I have raised her to adulthood with no problems (unwanted pregnancy, drugs, law-breaking etc.). Proud of her and myself. Good post.

  3. Surprisingly, I suffer greatly every time my grandkids leave after spending the night at our house. It goes from chaos to crickets. I LOVE my 61-year-old life, but having them around and then having them leave does something very negative to me. It’s almost existential, reminding me of mortality and time passing. Very dark. However, it passes quickly, and I’m used to it. Just very strange and powerful.

      1. I do believe it’s about having grown up in an atmosphere of domestic violence, and the enmeshment that resulted. Being part of a (noisy, difficult, Borg-like) family might have been uncomfortable, but I belonged. As an adult, I am learning to be an individual (in my 60s!) but the pull is still there. When the little guys leave, it forces me to individuate (don’t know if that’s the right word) all over again. Wrenching, but understandable. Now it’s just an exercise. Even if it makes me weep. You are right. This might be an interesting subject for others to read about. Others MUST experience it.

        1. I have heard others speak of it – that sense of youth’s potential and rowdy energy, and your very important role in your grandchildren’s lives being relished. And then, they leave and you’re back to you. It makes sense but I would love to read what you have to say about it.

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