What Is Healthy Dependence In A Relationship?
Have you or someone you know recently said, “We’re so codependent.” A bunch of folks are using the term, but what exactly is it? You sense it’s not a good thing, or something you want. But when did we start talking about? And what does it actually mean? The beginning of...
Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much
“I don’t know if I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to.” “Sometimes I just want to it to be over. But I know I have you, and that keeps me from doing anything.” If you hear these words from a friend or someone you care about, they hopefully send a shiver up your spine. That...
Ten Ways To Stay Out Of Texting Trouble
“Text me.” That request would’ve sounded crazy 25 years ago. Now it’s the way many of us communicate. I like to text. It’s easy and fun and it often makes a lot of things more convenient, opening up time in my day to be more productive. Or to binge on a little Netflix. However,...
The Red Bucket Man
Someone reached out to me this week. “Every time I see the red bucket man, I think of you, and put a little money in the bucket.” That warmed my heart. One of the great gifts that blogging has brought me is the many people I’ve learned from and communicated with here locally in...
How To Avoid A Long Hauliday
People can dread the holiday season for a number of both simple and complicated reasons. If it’s loss.. You might have had losses or trials in your life that overwhelm any attempts to celebrate; you remember past holiday seasons with tears in your eyes. You’re not sure how you’re...
Finding Meaning In Friendships That End
I remember the first Christmas break after my freshman year in college. My high school friends and I had just seen each other at Thanksgiving. Everything had been fantastic — lots of reminiscing as well as catching up, laughing about someone sporting a new beard or talk about who was still...
Five Common Ways Couples Bicker And Fuss – And Five Strategies to Stop
We all do it. Fuss. Bicker. Squabble. And we usually do it with the people we supposedly love the most. These are the fights that feel almost scripted because both people say the same things over and over. You can predict how long it’s going to last, and then who does what when it’s...
What Are You Teaching Your Daughter About Her Body? Five Strategies for Being a Healthy Role Model.
Sometimes, something hits a nerve. A few years ago this Dove commercial caught my attention. It highlights body image messages that mothers might unintentionally give daughters. And.. it shocked me. The subject of the video is moms talking about what they liked and disliked about their bodies,...
When Mom Is Emotionally Unstable. Seven Ways To Heal.
Mom. For many this word brings with it childhood memories of feeling safe while being tenderly tucked into bed, of band-aids and hugs when you scraped your knee, or wise advice given when you fell in love for the first time. You watched your mom and learned from her; she was committed to family,...
Seven Ways To Get Back To Being “In Love”
Being “in love.” I have heard so many people say, “I love her, but I’m not in love with her.” Or, “I don’t remember when it was I stopped loving my husband that way. But it’s gone.” Why does this happen to some couples and not others? Is it luck? Hard work? A choice?...
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