Family/Relationships

Four Ways To Get Emotional Closure In A Relationship — By Yourself

I’ve been divorced twice. And there was no emotional closure either time. Neither parting was easy. There was a lot of hurt on both sides, and I shared in the responsibility of the failure of both marriages. I felt tremendous shame. Later, I hoped for some kind of closure. Both of those men...

How To Understand When You Love Someone With Recurrent Depression

Patricia brought her husband, Dan, into therapy a couple of years ago, ”Can you try to help him understand what it feels like to have depression? He thinks I could stop the cycle if I was more positive, or exercised more.” Patricia worked at a huge church, where she helped run their...

What Pushes Your Buttons? How To Manage Your Insecurity

During my years in elementary school and well into junior high, while the other kids were in gym class or at lunch, I had to go home. I had a neurological problem that made it dangerous for me to be too physically active or get too hot, and so my mom picked me up in the middle of the day to rest....

Three Vital Reasons To Say “I’m Sorry” In Your Marriage

“Love means you never have to say you’re sorry.” Those words were emblazoned on a poster of Ali McGraw and Ryan O-Neal, the tragic lovers from the 1970 hit “Love Story,” which my sixteen year-old self had absorbed with teenage belief. I couldn’t wait to get into...

What Is Healthy Dependence In A Relationship?

Have you or someone you know recently said, “We’re so codependent.” A bunch of folks are using the term, but what exactly is it? You sense it’s not a good thing, or something you want. But when did we start talking about? And what does it actually mean? The beginning of...

Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much

“I don’t know if I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to.” “Sometimes I just want to it to be over. But I know I have you, and that keeps me from doing anything.” If you hear these words from a friend or someone you care about, they hopefully send a shiver up your spine. That...

Ten Ways To Stay Out Of Texting Trouble

“Text me.” That request would’ve sounded crazy 25 years ago. Now it’s the way many of us communicate. I like to text. It’s easy and fun and it often makes a lot of things more convenient, opening up time in my day to be more productive. Or to binge on a little Netflix. However,...

The Red Bucket Man

Someone reached out to me this week. “Every time I see the red bucket man, I think of you, and put a little money in the bucket.” That warmed my heart. One of the great gifts that blogging has brought me is the many people I’ve learned from and communicated with here locally in...

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