SelfWork YGTG: How Do You Say Goodbye?
Welcome to SelfWork’s You Get the Gist, five minutes of some ideas you can ponder for the rest of the day. Today YGTG is about saying goodbye. When I knew back in 1992 that my husband and I were going to leave Dallas and move to Arkansas, I distinctly remember a conversation I had with my...
What Are You Teaching Your Daughter About Her Body? Five Strategies for Being a Healthy Role Model.
Sometimes, something hits a nerve. A few years ago this Dove commercial caught my attention. It highlights body image messages that mothers might unintentionally give daughters. And…it shocked me. The subject of the video is moms talking about what they liked and disliked about their bodies,...
Ten Ways To Stay Out Of Texting Trouble
“Text me.” That request would’ve sounded crazy twenty-five years ago. Now it’s the way many of us communicate; it’s easy, fun, and convenient. It opens up time in your day to be more productive. Or to binge on a little Netflix. A quick text can be expedient and efficient for...
Finding Meaning In Friendships That End
I remember the first Christmas break after my freshman year in college. My high school friends and I had just seen each other at Thanksgiving. Everything had been fantastic — lots of reminiscing as well as catching up, laughing about someone sporting a new beard, or talk about who still had...
219 SelfWork: Four Tips on Avoiding Pandemic Burnout With Your Pandemic Partner
“I want this over!!” is being shouted from the rooftops by many after this round of holidays held little release from the sacrifices we are all making. But pandemic fatigue can easily morph into pandemic burnout, meaning that whatever skills you’d been using to dig a little deeper or...
Finding Your Purpose: The Best Valentines Gift You Can Give Yourself
In the second grade, I was elected “Valentine Queen” of my class. I wore a glittery paper crown all day long and dreamed of future ascensions. Miss Pine Bluff. Miss Arkansas. Miss America. I remember the surprising happiness that seeped inside of me, wondering finally (after all of...
Five Common Ways Couples Bicker And Fuss – And Five Strategies to Stop
We all do it. Fuss. Bicker. Squabble. And we usually do it with the people we literally love the most. It’s almost as if you’re following a script. You say the same things that you said the last time you bickered. You know how long the fight’s going to last, who’s going to...
Four Common Mistakes In The Hard, Frustrating, Awesome, and Complicated Job Of Step-Parenting
Falling in love can be heaven on earth. When you find love “the second time around” this is no different. Not only do you appreciate having found each other, you’ve hopefully learned about yourselves as individuals and as partners from past experience. You’ve recognized...
What Will Be The Sum of Social Anxiety, Social Distancing and Social Media?
Many of us have spent months being isolated socially; hopefully it’ll be sooner than later that we can rejoin our friends and colleagues for in-person gatherings. However for those of you who suffer with social anxiety, this might not be as welcome as it is for others. These days of forced...
212 SelfWork: Pros and Cons of People Pleasing
Wow. Sometimes when I pick a subject for SelfWork, I have to dig deep to find research that I can bring that will add clarity or give you what’s new out there on the subject. People pleasing? There are YouTube videos galore and all kinds of other resources. Most everyone agreed on how it starts...
