How Do You Heal From Parents Who Hurt You

My dad was very open with his love. One of his favorite things to say when I’d made a mess of things was, “You can always come home.” He’d send me a hand-written letter when things were tough, often quoting scripture, but always with a supportive, guiding message that reminded me of what was really important in life. And I knew how his eyes would light up when he saw me, especially when I no longer lived in the same city as him and my mom. I’m sure my brothers saw that same light.

Talking With Dad

When I was in my early twenties, I called my Dad and asked him to have lunch with me. “Don’t you want your Mom to come?” “Well, Dad, no…this time I want it to be just you and me.” “Okay. Sure. Where do you want to meet?” Up to that point, when I...

Are You Addicted To Your Ex? To Love? Or Are You Still Grieving?

I never considered getting back with either of my ex’s. Not that they were chomping at the bit to be with me again, either. There was far too much water under the bridge. Yet saying good-bye to love, or what you defined as love, can be a lot more difficult than you think.  Let’s look...

“I’m Doing My Best…” As A Parent, Are You In Denial?

What parent doesn’t have some form of regret? It goes along with the territory. Parenting is just plain tough. Looking back and remembering what you did, said, ignored, thought, blurted out, screamed — and wishing that you’d handled it better — is part of parenting that...

Anger. Is It Respected, Avoided, or Abusive In Your Life?

Anger. There’s a lot of it out there. My office is on a narrow one-way street that isn’t well marked as such. The other day there was a big cement truck traveling the wrong way; it pulled over to let me by and I gestured, smiling, that this was a one-way street. The guy screamed,...

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