Depression, anxiety, and emotional paralysis can go hand in hand. But today we’re talking today about fear – plain old unadulterated fear. But not fear about uncomfortable or destructive things. We’re talking about fear of positive change the keeps you stuck in behaviors that are a problem for you.

What are those potential fears? There are five that we’ll discuss in this week’s episode of The SelfWork Podcast.

  • A fear of the loss of stability or what’s known
  • Fear of emotional vulnerability
  • Fear of ambiguity or even failure
  • Fear of shame that you didn’t change before — and
  • Fear of relationship change

Each one of these fears can prevent you from visualizing yourself being able to change in a direction that feels good and positive to you and can cause a real emotional paralysis. But we’ll also talk about what you can do about it and how you can work with these fears.

The listener email is from a woman from South Africa who took advantage of the SpeakPipe experience and left me a message about her struggle to want to be with her family as opposed to her spouse. She wants to know, “Is there something wrong with that?”

Important Links:

A description of family systems theory (centrifugal versus centripetal families) by Dr.W.Robert Beavers

Episode 062 of SelfWork on Enmeshment

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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