Facing The Fear of Telling Your Truth and Being Demeaned

Let me take you back in time. I was on a first date with a guy named Jeff. I’d vetted him prior to our date, checked with people that I knew that he knew, etc. By all reports, he was nice, having earned his Ph.D, from the same program that I was currently...

Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?

It’s difficult to be around someone whose always whining. What does whining sound like? “I can’t get a break.” “Bad things seem to always happen to me.” “Wow, you’re lucky. My kids never call.” “My ex took my...

Five Steps to Overcome The Fear of Giving Up Perfectionism

The steps in this post are the basis for the treatment for the kind of depression I discuss in my book, Perfectly Hidden Depression – which at its most severe, can become deadly – as the pressure to never fail, to never falter becomes more and more...