Do You Fear An Emptier Empty Nest?

Do You Fear An Emptier Empty Nest?

When I introduce myself now, I tell folks I write. At least it brings up other comments than when I tell them I’m a psychologist.  That usually elicits the joke, “Ahh, are you going to psychoanalyze me?” Not particularly funny when you have heard it...
How to Cope With a Loss You’re Dreading

How to Cope With a Loss You’re Dreading

I am beginning to hear, “So what are you doing for the holidays?” I heard Andy Williams singing, “It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” twice yesterday.  Facebook and Instagram will come alive with pictures of get-togethers with...
A Birthday Lesson: The Gift Of Asking For Help

A Birthday Lesson: The Gift Of Asking For Help

Birthdays haven’t been about candles, or even gifts, for a long time. They are more like markers for introspection. And this week, I celebrated my 61st birthday. I have written about leaning into aging – about finding the courage it takes to not focus on...
25 Not So Little Things To Celebrate In 25 Married Years

25 Not So Little Things To Celebrate In 25 Married Years

My marriage is 25 years old this week. What would I whisper in that bride’s ears if I could? What would I tell her that she would be grateful for these 25 years later? It would be the little things. The smiley-face post-it notes left in your car, reminding you...
Coping With Empty Nest: The MOM Movement

Coping With Empty Nest: The MOM Movement

I have a good relationship with my 21 year-old son. But I have heard about it — the fate that is waiting for me. I’ve listened with a tiny bit of dread. “You know, boys just don’t stay close to their moms when they settle down. They are closer...
5 Essentials of Healing After An Affair

5 Essentials of Healing After An Affair

I got a call from a TV reporter after the infamous “blue dress” incident during Clinton’s presidency. He wanted to do an interview about the likelihood that the Clintons would break-up. I started smiling. “If most couples didn’t make it...