What It Takes To Be Real: This Is “My” Brave

This is a story about being brave in a different way – by letting others more fully into my own mental struggles. To actually be the real me. And it involves letting others see me cry. I’ve cried when I’ve felt loss or grief, or when others I care...

Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?

Nobody likes a whiner. Who might fit this bill? Let’s say you’re filled to the brim with self-pity or a sense the world is against you. You can’t get a break. Bad things seem to always happen to you. Promotions don’t come your way. Your kids...

The Shame No One Talks About In Sexual Abuse

Note: If you’ve been sexually abused, this article may trigger a response — memories, anxiety, nightmares. Please read with care. I can’t count the times that someone, male or female, has been looking out the window so their eyes won’t meet...

Feeling Invisible and How To Confront The Shame You’ve Never Deserved

A lot of people feel invisible. And for many different reasons. What do I mean by “feeling invisible?” Like you don’t matter. As if you aren’t a vital part of things. As if you are being overlooked or seen only for what you can do instead of for who you are....

How Do You Heal From Parents Who Hurt You

When my dad died, I knew something had changed forever. My dad was very open with his love. One of his favorite things to say when I’d made a mess of things was, “You can always come home.” He’d send me a hand-written letter when things were...