How To Step Away From Paralyzing Shame

At the age of 34, I didn’t think I’d ever live down my shame. I’d struggled through a chaotic ten years. I’d ended two marriages, both for different reasons. Yet, the thread between them was me. I was struggling to even think of myself as a good...

Three Ways to Fight Your Own Critical Voice About Your Body

At thirteen years old, I decided I was going to shave my legs, all the way up to my mid-thigh. I felt quite adult and dangerously risqué. My mother was mortified and told me, “You’ll regret it forever.” At the time, I took her comment quite...

Three Hurdles in the Fight With the Black Dog of Depression

Depression. It has many ways that it can be created — years of abuse, a debilitating illness, a child with a drug problem, divorce, the death of someone you love, neglect, bullying, discrimination, never feeling adequate. The list goes on and on. It has many...

The Shame No One Talks About In Sexual Abuse

Note: If you’ve been sexually abused, this article may trigger a response — memories, anxiety, nightmares. Please read with care. “I’m so ashamed… I’ve never told anyone this.” Shame from sexual abuse can last far longer than...

5 Commitments To Yourself If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist

Narcissism. That word gets thrown around a good deal these days. So what is a true narcissist and what happens if you love someone who has these traits? What are the traits of narcissism? He displays a terribly inflated ego or sense of importance and seems to believe...