Are You As Grown Up As You Think You Are? Four Steps to Take A Look

What does it mean to feel grown up? Feeling mature perhaps, or decisive. Knowing that you’ve figured some things out — that you’re no longer following more adolescent impulses. You can be more objective about yourself and others.  Maybe it means...

161 SelfWork: How Does Therapy Work?

What happens in therapy that can be helpful? How does it work? These are basic questions that were brought to my attention during my recent interview with Lewis Howes on his podcast The School of Greatness. He and his team bring what they consider “great” ideas and...

When Tragedy Happens: How to Fight Helplessness

A horrible tragedy happened this week in my hometown of Fayetteville, Arkansas. Not all of the details are known, especially not the “why.” But a young police officer was murdered while sitting in his patrol car in back of the station, preparing for his...

What It Takes To Be Real: This Is “My” Brave

This is a story about being brave in a different way – by letting others more fully into my own mental struggles. To actually be the real me. And it involves letting others see me cry. I’ve cried when I’ve felt loss or grief, or when others I care...

Is It Self-Pity, Depression Or Perfectly Hidden Depression?

Nobody likes a whiner. Who might fit this bill? Let’s say you’re filled to the brim with self-pity or a sense the world is against you. You can’t get a break. Bad things seem to always happen to you. Promotions don’t come your way. Your kids...