When A Parent’s Unconditional Love Is Worn Away

  Whenever I hear the term “unconditional love,” I think of the first moment I saw my infant child. That’s probably the purest love I’ve ever felt, or will ever feel. All he’d done so far was breathe and cry, and I loved him with a...

How Making A Difference For Others… Makes A Difference In You

What I do for a living offers constant perspective; I hear every day about what can happen in people’s lives, both the good and the not-so good. I hear about tragedy, abuse, and I hear about tremendous courage people muster while facing it. Yet I also hear about...

The Boundary-less Couple: Victims and Savers

Boundaries. What in the world does that word really mean when it comes to relationships? A boundary is a limit, an edge, where one thing stops and another begins. If you say, “I don’t have good boundaries,” what do you mean? Generally, it means that...

How To Not Be Victimized By Empty Nest. Letting Go With Intention.

These days, my only son Rob is traveling at breakneck speed through his twenties. I’ve ridden many waves of motherhood, gradually transitioning from hands-on mom to empty nest mom to now a much more hands-off-but-always-available mom.  That letting go process...

What I Most Want This Mother’s Day I Can Give To Myself

This is the third Mother’s Day in the era of Covid19. I’m not one to be concerned with receiving gifts, but I wondered what I might want to give myself… The first gift I thought of is actually far too dangerous, for it has to do with knowing when the...

282 SelfWork: Watching My Mother Disappear

This is a very personal episode of SelfWork, as I tell the story of my mother’s intense struggles with anxiety – and her turning to prescription drugs to help her cope. Sadly, doctors in the 1960’s brushed off women with “nerves” and...