How to Solve the Parenting Debate: Four Important Realizations

Parenting is one of the toughest jobs in the world. There’s no rehearsal. No interview process. You haven’t a clue what it’s going to be like, and suddenly, you’re hired. You’re a parent. And what about the person at your side? The guy or...

Five Ways to Keep Fairy Tale Relationships From Becoming Nightmares

After a bad break up or a divorce, and your relationship is over, how often do you look back and wonder, “What was I thinking? How did I not see this coming? How did I ever think this was going to work out well?” It’s true of course that hindsight is...

Five Reasons We Talk “At” Each Other And How To Listen

When couples walk in my door, saying, “We can’t communicate,” one of the things I immediately wonder is whether anyone is truly listening. So much of the time, instead of listening, you assume you know what the other one is about to say, or you...

Seven Problems and Seven Solutions for Feeling “In Love”

Being “in love.” How do you maintain it? How do you keep from experiencing what I have heard so many people say, “I love her, but I’m not in love with her any more.” Is it luck? Hard work? A choice? Yes, all of these and more. Over the...

How to Learn Emotional Self-Control and Healthy Communication

There’s a simple mantra out there that can really help with self-control. Especially emotional self-control. It’s, “Respond not react.” Sounds easy, right? It’s not. Learning how to control your reactions to what’s being said or...