178 SelfWork: How To Safely Talk about Pain from Your Past

May 1, 2020

How do you set up a situation where you can safely talk about something painful from your past? Today’s episode was sparked by a listener telling me that she’d been sexually abused, and is now dissociating during sex with her very loving husband. He’s aware of...

Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much

Apr 25, 2020

“I don’t know if I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to.” “Sometimes I just want to it to be over. But I know I have you, and that keeps me from doing anything.” “You’re the reason I can go on.” If you hear these words from a...

Kindness Matters. And Happens Every Day.

Apr 18, 2020

I originally wrote this in July of 2016 in the wake of natural disasters, shootings, and tragedies overseas. I’m offering it again to you today with a few nods to what we are going through together as the world faces this pandemic. I wish you all well. I sat down to...

The Seven Gifts Of A Long “Healthy Enough” Marriage

Mar 14, 2020

My husband and I have been married almost thirty years. A while back we started trying out Blue Apron, the service that brings weekly meals and recipes to your door. His joking words the other morning were, “I’m liking Blue Apron. It’s nice after...

168 SelfWork: The What, Why, When, Where and How of Setting Boundaries

Feb 29, 2020

My dad used to say to us as kids, “Your rights end where someone else’s nose begins.” And that’s where I began learning about boundaries. Psychological boundaries are those that define where your own personal limits are as to what is emotionally harmful, and what is...

How To Make A Difference For Others, And For You

Feb 22, 2020

What I do for a living offers constant perspective. I hear every day about what can happen in people’s lives, both the good and the not so good. I hear about tragedy, abuse, and I hear about tremendous courage in the facing of it. But I also hear about the...