How To Make A Difference For Others, And For You

What I do for a living offers constant perspective. I hear every day about what can happen in people’s lives, both the good and the not so good. I hear about tragedy, abuse, and I hear about tremendous courage in the facing of it. But I also hear about the...

166 SelfWork: Finding Your Way Back to Love

Valentines can hold as much angst for people as the holiday season. And if you have conflict or estrangement or alienation within your relationship, then that pain can become more distinct. Today we’re going to focus on what can cause these kinds of problems. But as...

Four Skills To Keep Long Distance Relationships Thriving

In the technological dark ages of my youth, when the phone would ring, Dad would pick it up. And then I’d hear, “Hey Bet, quick. Get on the phone. It’s so and so calling long distance.” And Mother would come flying. Not only did a long distance...

What is the Best Valentines Gift You Can Give Yourself?

In the second grade, I was elected “Valentine Queen” of my class. I wore a glittery paper crown all day long and dreamed of future ascensions. Miss Pine Bluff. Miss Arkansas. Miss America. I remember the surprising happiness that seeped inside of me,...

Five Ways to Keep Fairy Tale Relationships From Becoming Nightmares

After a bad break-up or a divorce and your relationship is over, you often look back and wonder, “What was I thinking? How did I not see this coming? How did I ever think this was going to work out well?” It’s true, of course, that hindsight is...

Are You As Grown Up As You Think You Are? Four Steps to Take A Look

What does it mean to feel grown up? Feeling mature perhaps, or decisive. Knowing that you’ve figured some things out — that you’re no longer following more adolescent impulses. You can be more objective about yourself and others.  Maybe it means...