Five Reasons We Talk “At” Each Other And How To Listen

When couples walk in my door, saying, “We can’t communicate,” one of the things I immediately wonder is whether anyone is truly listening. With so many of us remaining in various degrees of social distancing, we’re spending more time with those...

Five Strategies to Deal With Empty Nest

This is the time of year many of you are dealing with your children going off to college, the military, trade school, career opportunities, or other major life changes as they enter adulthood. Of course, with the pandemic this year, things will be different than they...

Five Commitments To Yourself If You Love (Or Have Loved) A Narcissist

Narcissism. That word gets thrown around a good deal these days to describe someone who’s self-absorbed, highly confident, or abrasive. But what is a true narcissist? And what are the troublesome dynamics if you love a narcissist? (The pronoun “he” is used...

When Your Marriage Has Turned Into A Business: Seven Healing Ideas

There are thousands of couples whose marriage has turned into a business. Don’t get me wrong; all couples are running a business. There’s the business of household chores, of coordinating kids’ schedules or work trips out of town, of paying bills, or...

The Boundary-less Couple: Victims and Savers

Boundaries. What in the world does that word really mean when it comes to relationships? A boundary is a limit, an edge, where one thing stops and another begins. When someone says, “I don’t have good boundaries,” what do they mean? Generally, they...

Three Steps in Learning to Respond – Not React

As the pandemic continues, perhaps you’re sheltering in place with family and finding that communications with others are breaking down more easily. Or perhaps you’re feeling that your emotions are a bit more difficult to contain. If so, this post is for...