The Silent Damage of Emotional Abuse

The damage of emotional abuse may go unseen and silent. But it’s very real. You may see yourself or someone you love in the stories I’m about to share. So please read with care. The stories…  Debbie Debbie sat, quietly crying in my office, “I...

The One Question You Can Ask to Stop Fighting With Your Partner

You love your partner and you value your relationship. But… the two of you have developed a habit of falling into fights more and more frequently. It may have even grown so problematic that you shudder when you hear them pull into the driveway, anticipating the...

“I Love You, But…” How Couples Hear And Deal With Criticism

I can go through phases where I criticize my husband’s driving a bit too much. He slows down to look at something, and I exaggeratedly start waving my hand out the side window as if we are on a parade float, silently suggesting that he needs to pick up the pace....

Five Reasons We Talk “At” Each Other And How To Listen

When couples walk in my door with their chief complaint being, “We can’t communicate,” one of the things I immediately wonder is whether either one is truly listening…or are they talking “at” each other? All too often instead of...