250 SelfWork: Where Does Willpower Come From?

This is the 250th episode of SelfWork. And frankly, I’m amazed. So, that made me wonder… where does willpower come from? Can you learn to have more willpower? What makes something worth sacrificing for? What can cause you to forego immediate gratification...

Five Strategies to Deal With Empty Nest

As a therapist, I try to focus not just on concepts, but also on tangible actions to help you make concrete changes in your life, no matter what issues you’re facing; we discuss what you can do about it. The same things goes for facing empty nest. Fortunately,...

249 SelfWork: How To Calm Your Mind or What Would Mister Rogers Say?

Today we’re focused on how on the power of words can calm or basically how to self-soothe. I stopped to think about “soothers” with words in our culture, such as Mister Rogers, Aibileen Clark from the movie The Help, and even more recently and comically, Ted Lasso....

Anger. Is It Respected, Avoided, or Abusive In Your Life?

Anger. There’s a lot of it out there. My office is on a narrow one-way street that isn’t well marked as such. A while back there was a big cement truck traveling the wrong way; it pulled over to let me by and I gestured, smiling, that this was a one-way street....

248 SelfWork: Six Major Reasons You Might Tend To Quit Therapy

This episode is my response to a review that was left on SelfWork this week. They write, “Thank you for taking the time to make this podcast. I’ve tried therapy at least five times in the last ten years for anxiety, depression and grief. I could never stick with...