1. Thank you so much. I truly was hit by this like a ton of bricks when both of my kids departed within months of one another; I’ve been muddling through ever since, trying to re-familiarize myself with myself. It’s good to know that others are dealing with this as well, so glad I found you on FB 🙂

    1. Muddling is a great word! Welcome to NestAche! For any of you new to the website, some of the earlier posts describing my own muddling are EMPTY NEST, MOM I DON’T THINK I’M COMING HOME SPRING BREAK and SEPARATE HOUSES. That’s for those who want the Cliff Notes version of the last year. Tracy, thanks so much for commenting and I will look forward to your thoughts as you join in.

    1. Most of us, me included, wait until something has happened. Then try to figure out what to do. I was lucky enough to listen to other parents who seemed to be doing swimmingly after their kids were gone. I asked what had they done? The answers are here! Thanks Carol.

  2. I did what you mentioned, i did a little incremental grieving my son’s senior year in high school, treasuring every day he walked in the house or we sat and talked, every ballgame, every senior celebration. Then I would dive away and cry and cry like a baby just feeling the transition coming up, but it served to both make the moment pristine special and to help ease the load of sadness because when the time came for him to go to college (and even now when he visits and goes back to wherever his current adventure is) I cry some, but it isn’t overwhelming because what I have learned is that love like this just expands my world – I get to live vicariously through each new endeavor he takes on! It’s exciting and fulfilling. I love my grown up kids! And I like the new freedom to explore my own potential, too. It’s a win/win. The gift that keeps on giving

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