480 SelfWork: Why Am I So Self-Critical?

Self-criticism can take on a life of its own. And become so constant that you have to fight it on a daily or even hourly basis.

So today we’re going to focus on what may be keeping your self-criticism alive and well in ways that you don’t realize.

There are two steps we’ll cover. The first is raising awareness of your own inner self-critical voice. The second is assessing what role or function it may have for you. What purpose might self-criticism have that weirdly protects you in some way or serves a role for you in your life?

For our email, I’ve pulled some excerpts from an email I received from a younger reader who’d read the article on enmeshment I have on my website. She has questions about her relationship with her parents – she finds herself, even in her early 20’s, sharing certain kinds of things with them that her friends don’t share with their parents – and think it’s a little strange that she shares those experiences with hers. Her friends are saying that that’s oversharing – that there are certain things you no longer share with your folks as you grow and develop your own life away from them. Are her friends right?

 

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Dr. Margaret’s article on covert narcissism

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By the way…

I’m excited to let you know that my new workbook, The Perfectly Hidden Depression Workbook,  is available for pre-order! It’s a stand-alone workbook (so doesn’t need to be used with the original book) and goes through the ten traits of PHD – things like taking on too much responsibility, not knowing how to be more open emotionally – and guides you through new exercises and ideas. These can help you decide what about your drive or your perfectionism you want to keep – and what you need to let go. It’ll publish on April 1st – but pre-order numbers are very important! So I’ll hope you’ll pre-order now! Here’s the link!

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