Today we’re going to talk about the fairly sticky subject of the difference between expectations, demands, and boundaries. In this “second time around” episode, Christine Mathias, Dr. Margaret’s communication manager, lets us in to how her younger self struggled with setting good boundaries – and why this particular episode meant a lot to her.
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So, what is the difference between expectations, demands and boundaries?
Here are some questions to ask yourself.
What do you do when you feel disappointed by others? Do you isolate or judge? Do you get mad or sulk? Could it be that your very expectations are the problem? Is it different to voice your expectations than it is to secretly have them? Or is that playing a game that the other person doesn’t know you’re playing? And how do boundaries fit in here?
The listener email for today is from a young 21 year-old who feels tremendous loyalty to her family and feels “needed” by them. But she also feels very stuck and admits she can hold onto a victim mentality. She’s dealing with enmeshment it sounds like.. She’s asking how she can take baby steps to start living more independently… Wonderful question and I’ll do my best to give her some ideas.
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