John Crowley, my friend and incredible production engineer, chose this episode as one of his “second time around” favorites to present to you in my absence. My immense gratitude to him for taking the wheel!
What are the seven steps to work through disappointment? Here they are!
- Grieve first.
- Start getting perspective right off the bat.
- Consider and acknowledge what your own part was or is in creating the disappointment. That’s utilizing your internal locus control.
- Acknowledge what you couldn’t control, utilizing your external locus control.
- Build back your energy, enthusiasm by choosing to do things that will bring you pleasure. And those dopamine receptors will love that.
- Look for the windows that are opening as that door closes. Again, you might need friends to do that.
- Reassess your disappointment. Take time in the next two or three months or even six months to look back and say, “All right, how do I perceive that disappointment now?”
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