331 SelfWork: Suicide – What We All Can Do About It
This week’s episode of SelfWork focuses on suicide – but not as a pre-determined sign that someone needs hospitalization. That might be true, of course. But many, many people have suicidal thoughts or ideas, even fantasies of what could happen that would allow them to escape pain that may feel intolerable. And in those cases, talking about suicide or those fantasies can be a positive sign – a sign of trust, of reaching out, of connection. And a sign of not wanting to die.
We’re going to explore these ideas today on SelfWork. Because talking about suicide – recognizing that feeling as if that’s an answer to your pain – is normal to feel. It’s not a sin or a sign you’re weak. I’ve literally talked with hundreds of people in my thirty years as a clinician about those thoughts. Because talking about it can lead to more understanding, greater trust, deeper self-compassion, and recognition of a desire to live.
If you or someone you love has struggled to reveal any kind of emotional pain – if your family or culture created the need for you to remain rigidly stoic, with tight control (or even denial) of hurt or pain – this approach may save your life.
If this triggers you in any way, here are the International Suicide Prevention Hot Lines.
The listener voicemail is from a woman whose addictions seemed to have been a huge part of her not mothering well from the perspective of her oldest child – who now has estranged herself from her mom. We’ll talk about what she can do in this circumstance to help herself cope with her loss, not allowing the estrangement to sabotage the rest of her life.
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Sociologist Jason Manning’s research findings on factors leading to suicidal thinking
Mayo Clinic article about the distinction between suicide as a wish for death and suicide as a source of relief
CBS Sunday Morning’s episode on Donna’s Law.
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