I’ve had many people tell me over the years that they feel free to tell me things because they know I cannot tell anyone else. That’s true of course- unless I believe that there’s imminent danger of some kind to them or someone else. But I don’t think of my role as that of secret-keeper. Instead I think of a therapist as offering safety rather than secrecy. Part of the safety is the secrecy – but of course, in abusive or manipulative relationships, secrecy is often used with malintent. So today, we’re going to talk about secrets.
Here are the questions we’ll answer!
- What are the most common secrets?
- Why can some people not keep a secret or why are they a tattletale or a gossip?
- What’s the difference between secrecy and privacy? Or secrecy and confidentiality?
- Is it true that when something is kept secret from you, it has no impact on you?
- What’s the difference between secrecy and manipulation? And secrecy and abuse?
The SpeakPipe voicemail for today is from a woman who revealed childhood sexual abuse to her sister; her abuser was a brother, 8 years older than she. Sadly, the sister has withdrawn from her – and now she’s asking me what she should do. What would you say?
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Episode 217 on sibling sexual abuse
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