Today we’re going to cover two of the most frequent questions I hear — how to find a therapist and how you know a therapist is right for you. The title of the episode has “new” in quotes because often what’s old is new again, and that’s certainly the case here!  We’ll go over the seven factors that are found to make therapy the most effective it can be. What are those? Let’s start out with the alliance between the therapist and the client. That’s #1.

The listener email today is from a young woman who’s in a relationship with someone who seems very depressed – who has had a difficult childhood, is a child of divorce and has been very influenced by a mother who has always seen the world very negatively. Her question is about her actions are seen as intentionally malicious. The listener doesn’t know what to do and is asking for advice, as currently she feels blamed irrationally and viewed through overly distrustful eyes.

Important Links:

Episode 001 SelfWork: What Is Good Therapy

Ratings of the top ten online counseling services.

Recent APA Meta-analysis of Therapeutic Effectiveness:

Seven Demonstrably Effective Factors and Report by Tora DeAngelos

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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