Today we’re talking about the difference between narcissism and healthy narcissism. There are big differences and since the word “narcissistic” is being thrown around so much these days, I thought I’d do my part to keep things clear. I’m quoting three experts — Dr. Dale Archer, Bob Taibbi, and Dr. Craig Malkin – all who have fascinating takes on the subject. I’d definitely recommend giving the links below a click to read more. You can also listen to three SelfWork episodes on narcissism and how I see it played out:  Episode 019 on how to cope with it in a relationship, Episode 122 on its relationship with love addiction, and Episode 127, dealing with two of the main manipulative techniques used — gaslighting and stonewalling.

The listener email is from a mom who’s overshared with her oldest daughter about her father’s financial issues and now regrets her actions. This kind of what’s termed “enmeshment” in families happens often, when one parent or even both pull a child into a pseudo-adult role in relationship with them, without realizing the damage.

Important Links:

Diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

Dr. Dale Archer’s full article on Jody Arias and his book Better Than Normal: How What Makes You Different Can Make You Exceptional

Bob Taibbi’s article on healthy narcissism in  Psychology Today and his book– Brief Therapy with Couples in Crisis

Dr. Craig Malkin’s article  in Psychology Today on the more subtle signs of narcissism and his book Rethinking Narcissism

A helpful link on asexuality: 

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