147 SelfWork:”I’m Better Off Being Alone”: Challenging Seven Beliefs That Lead to Depression and Loneliness

Depression is going to be our topic for a few weeks and today, we’re focusing on the cycle of beliefs that can keep you isolated from others — which can serve to fuel your depression. These are things you can convince yourself are true and will “always” be — and that you’re better off alone —  rather than realizing that perhaps they are accurate for some situations, but certainly not all.

What are these beliefs?

• I can’t be around other people; they just make me mad.
• No one would understand.
• I’m burdening others if I talk about my pain.
• People have disappointed me, and I just can’t be hurt anymore.
• People don’t want to hear that I’m depressed again.
• I don’t care anymore.
• If I have to ask for it, it’s not the same

Do you hear yourself or someone you love? Then I hope today’s episode will shake those beliefs up.

The listener email today is from a woman who’s struggled with obesity most of her life and has won that battle, but is left with the scars of loose sagging skin. And she’s met someone with whom she wants a vital sexual relationship. So,  she’s struggling with trust and vulnerability.

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