Getting motivated for change and maintaining that change can be tricky business. Willpower. Self-discipline. Focus.All are touted as necessary for achievement of your goals. But where does self-acceptance come into this? And what about understanding what’s underneath the change you maybe want or need to make? I’ll talk today about how motivation — understanding why you’re working toward certain goals and the importance of not depending on shame to move toward those goals, as it will only sabotage your attempts in the end.

The listener email is from someone who sought therapy in the past but hasn’t as of yet had a successful experience. She’s taking responsibility for some of that, but also finds that therapists tend to “meander” instead of coming up with specific goals and ways to get there.

You can hear more about depression and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to this website and receive my weekly blog posts and podcasts!

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

And there’s a new way to send me a message! You can record by clicking below and ask your question or make a comment. You’ll have 90 seconds to do so and that time goes quickly. By recording, you’re giving SelfWork (and me) permission to use your voice on the podcast. I’ll look forward to hearing from you!

Important Links:

Book by Mark Mason The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F__k

Important link: Mark Manson on Self-Discipline


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