Even when you want change in your life, it’s hard to give up what’s familiar and risk the unfamiliar. You at least know you can tolerate what’s happening now and change can be daunting. But you can also be struggling with powerful triggers. I’ll define what a trigger is – how it can be known to you or how it can be unknown, or unconscious. Some of the examples I use involve sexual abuse so please listen with caution if you’ve been abused. And as always, I’ll discuss what you can do about it; how you can become more aware of triggers and their influence over you.

The listener email is from a woman whose ex is narcissistic and who sexually and physically abused her during the marriage. How she’s trying to coparent with him..

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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