136 SelfWork: When the Going Gets Tough.. Self-Composure vs. Stoicism
Do you live by the rule, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going?’ In this podcast, I offer another way of approaching life when it gets tough — an approach that honors both the need to forge ahead when things get hard, but one that won’t lead to emotional and even physical burnout. I got to revisit this issue when I was interviewed by a wonderful writer Rainesford Stauffer this past week. And it got me thinking. What exactly is the difference between self-composure, stoicism and self-destructiveness? What is the healthy response to when the going gets tough?
Along this line, I’ve received criticism from some who’ve read my work on perfectly hidden depression — people who ask, “Why are you saying that bearing up from your troubles, putting them on the back burner and functioning, is an illness? That’s strength to me.” So we’ll talk about all of this in today’s SelfWork, and I’ll quote an old Sukuma proverb about how a tree that bends will endure the storms that come its way. Too rigid — and it will break.
The listener email for this week is from someone whose mom certainly had symptoms of borderline personality disorder but when she wrote me, questioned whether or not she was at at fault somehow.
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