Is therapy really helpful when a relationship is in trouble? And what are the kinds of things you need to realize about therapy that might increase the chances of it being effective? Let’s talk about what’ s important in choosing a couples therapist, but also I’ll offer a roadmap to guide your healing. There are three levels that you can grow more aware of — what you do, what you say, and what you think — basically changing behavior, learning new communication skills, and making sure you’re not operating on a bunch of assumptions and destructive thinking patterns that have become entrenched and habitual. Today we’re looking at the big picture of change within a relationship. It’s hard work, but when it’s effective, it can help create amazing results.

The listener email is from someone who had an affair but chose not to tell his spouse. And now feels terribly guilty and ashamed but is keeping it a secret. What would you do? I’ll offer my best advice..

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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