Step-parenting may be one of the hardest jobs on earth, second only to parenting. It’s complicated, awesome, frustrating and sometimes downright irritating. Blending families successfully takes much more time than people want to think. There can be lots of personalities involved, old wounds and new hurts. So much depends on time and in what context the blending happens. So here are four mistakes that I see a lot. And of course, I offer “what to do about it,” a theme that runs through every SelfWork episode.

The listener email for today is from someone who’s entered therapy but is scared to open up and reveal what they’ve been truly coping with for many years. I give them my best recommendations on how to talk about the process of therapy before you necessarily go into content that might be difficult.

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