You may have asked yourself this question once or many times — “Why Couldn’t I Have Figured This Out Sooner?” In this episode of SelfWork, we’ll talk about the grief you may need to feel after asking yourself this question and the role of self-compassion in its answer. This is a part of any healing, but I’ll talk a bit about its role in Perfectly Hidden Depression. And I’ll give you an example of someone who had kept a secret for years, much to her detriment, and then had to grieve a decade or more of seemingly unnecessary silence.

The listener email for today is from someone whose husband struggles to identify and express emotions, and wants her to be his “therapist.” (Not a good idea…).

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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