You may have asked yourself this question once or many times — “Why Couldn’t I Have Figured This Out Sooner?” In this episode of SelfWork, we’ll talk about the grief you may need to feel after asking yourself this question and the role of self-compassion in its answer. This is a part of any healing, but I’ll talk a bit about its role in Perfectly Hidden Depression. And I’ll give you an example of someone who had kept a secret for years, much to her detriment, and then had to grieve a decade or more of seemingly unnecessary silence.

The listener email for today is from someone whose husband struggles to identify and express emotions, and wants her to be his “therapist.” (Not a good idea…).

You can hear more about grief and many other topics by listening to Dr. Margaret’s new podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to this website and receive her weekly posts as well as her podcasts, plus Dr. Margaret’s eBook, “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy.”