Bickering is a bad habit. These are fights that are practically scripted – you know what your partner is going to say and they know what you’re going to say before you ever say it as well. But you can recognize these patterns and figure out what you’re actually fighting about. Things like trust, control, and insecurity are in the background, fueling the squabbling and fighting. There is good news. At least if you’re fighting, you still care and that’s far better than apathy. We’ll take a look at these patterns and as always, what you can do about it.

The listener email today is from someone who’s listened to the podcasts on shame and can identify when she’s shaming herself, but still can’t stop.

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A wonderful book on maintaining true intimacy —  The Four Agreements.

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