Many people have trouble with connecting with their feelings. I’ve talked a lot about PHD – and certainly those folks have many intense feelings well hidden away. But it’s not only in PHD that this can occur. Many times, I’ve watched someone on the verge of letting go, of allowing an emotion to surface – only to quickly blink it away or awkwardly change the subject.
So here are three things that may get in the way and nine ways to try to explore them more. Of course, the therapeutic relationship may be the best place for that to happen. But these are things you can do on your own time.
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Important links:
Bessel Van Der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score
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This article is thoughtfully written and deeply insightful. Your guidance on self-work and feeling one’s emotions is presented with clarity, compassion, and genuine care for the reader’s personal growth. I especially appreciate how you balance practical advice with reflective insight, creating a space that feels both supportive and encouraging. It is evident that this piece was crafted with intention and warmth, and your thoughtful approach makes it truly engaging and meaningful. Thank you for sharing such a valuable and inspiring resource.
Mary you are so welcome!