Many people have trouble with connecting with their feelings. I’ve talked a lot about PHD – and certainly those folks have many intense feelings well hidden away. But it’s not only in PHD that this can occur. Many times, I’ve watched someone on the verge of letting go, of allowing an emotion to surface – only to quickly blink it away or awkwardly change the subject.

So here are three things that may get in the way and nine ways to try to explore them more. Of course, the therapeutic relationship may be the best place for that to happen. But these are things you can do on your own time.

Our listener email is from a listener who considers herself  an “alpha” female. She’s writing about how she’s attracted to men she can either never have or control and wants to know how to understand that dynamic.

Important links:

Bessel Van Der Kolk’s The Body Keeps the Score


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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression will be arriving November 1,2019! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. More to come.