Perfectionism is one of the chief traits of Perfectly Hidden Depression. We’re going to be talking about confronting perfectionism – the first thing is to realize you’re not going to do it perfectly. I’ll share other important hurdles to recognize as you begin the difficult task of undoing a perfectionistic streak in yourself that only adds intense pressure to your life and can rob you of joy and fulfillment.

Dr. Margaret’s listener email in this episode is a question about being promiscuous both as a teen and as a married adult.  I may not have had answers but certainly some thoughts for her to consider.

Click here if you’re interested in taking the questionnaire on PHD to see where you may fall on the spectrum.

Important links:

Out of the Shadows — a audiobook by Patrick Carnes and the classic on sexual addiction.

I Hate You Don’t Leave Me — a classic audiobook on borderline personality disorder.

Stop Walking On Eggshells — another classic audiobook on BPD.


You can hear more about depression and many other topics by listening to Dr. Margaret’s podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to this website and receive her weekly blog posts and podcasts, as well as  free downloadable ebook, “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy.”!

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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression will be arriving November 1,2019! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life. More to come.