Welcome to SelfWork! I’m talking about self-control today… especially emotional self-control. We won’t touch on addictions, although they obviously have to do with emotional self-control. We’re talking about in the realm of communication how to maintain self-control when you’re angry, or taken aback, afraid or surprised. There’s a simple mantra that can be helpful — “respond don’t react,” but I’ll also talk about how your values are underneath how you choose to respond, and include three steps toward creating more self-control for you, and can certainly lead to healthier communication between you and those you love.

The email from a listener today is about Perfectly Hidden Depression, a topic that I’m passionate about. (You can find episodes on PHD beginning with Episodes 3 and 4 and interspersed throughout.) Today a listener had been told that she couldn’t be truly suicidal if she didn’t have the classic symptoms of depression. I’ll help her see through that feedback.

Important links:

The National Suicide Prevention Hotline.

You can hear more about mental health and many other topics by listening to my podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to my website and receive one weekly newsletter including my weekly blog post and podcast! If you’d like to join my FaceBook closed group, then click here and answer the membership questions! Welcome!

My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.

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