We’re going to be talking about healthy and not so healthy relationships today. Many relationships get their start with one person “saving” another. These are boundary-less relationship and they’re doomed for trouble. The victim gets tired of being the victim. The savior gets tired of not being appreciated for saving.  Mark Manson, a blogger with a huge following, talks about it in his recent book, “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F**k. Perhaps without knowing it, he’s discussing roles in relationships of victim, hero and persecutor, known as The Karpman Drama Triangle. We’ll also touch on what happens when you try to change this dynamic, and how you can recognize the roles you play.

The listener email today is about Podcast 061. She’d done the self-esteem exercise, and ended putting herself down for the results. We’ll discuss!

Important links:

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck

Karpman Drama Triangle

An article I recently wrote on the difference between PHD and healthy coping. 

 
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