You can hear the pressures beginning to mount in people’s voices, as we all approach the holiday season. Dr. Margaret offers her own personal story of her parents’ deaths the week before Christmas of 2007, and how giving herself options was key in balancing the meaning of rituals with her grief. Rituals can be incredibly healing when they bring exuberance, depth and joy, not when they’re burdens to be carried out dutifully — or maybe even resentfully.

The listener email today is from someone who wants to reveal vague memories she has of past abuse, but is unclear how to begin talking it with her therapist. Dr. Margaret gives practical and helpful advice about how that process can happen in a supportive way, for a topic that’s very difficult to reveal.

Important links:

The audiobook version of The Courage To Heal, a self-help guide to recovery from sexual abuse.

Click here for “Marriage Is Not For Chickens,” the new gift book by Dr. Margaret! It’s perfect for engagements, anniversaries, weddings, or for the person you love!

You can hear more about depression and many other topics by listening to Dr. Margaret’s new podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Subscribe to this website and receive her weekly posts as well as her podcasts, plus Dr. Margaret’s eBook, “Seven Commandments of Good Therapy.”