Apologizing, saying “I’m sorry,” is quite difficult for many people. Yet a sincere heartfelt apology can make a world of difference in a relationship. Dr. Margaret adds to a list of good and not so good apologies that appeared in The Wall Street Journal (written by Elizabeth Bernstein), including the contingency apology, the passing the buck apology and the gaslighting apology. What follows is a discussion of why apologies are important, gender differences in apologizing and family influences in learning how to apologize.

The listener email in today’s podcast is someone with Perfectly Hidden Depression who asks the question: “If I reveal myself, and stop hiding, will it scare off my partner? Who am I if I’m not the achiever, and the one who takes care of everyone else first and foremost?”

Important links:

Dr. Jennifer Thomas’ post on gender differences in apology.


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