Narcissism has been a hot topic for the past few years, with many people writing about their fate — being attracted to and trying to love someone with narcissistic traits. Dr. Margaret talks clearly about what narcissism is and what it’s not, as well as offering five recognitions about your own role in the furor and chaos of the relationship that can help you either stay in with more clarity, or leave the relationship with greater understanding.

Her email of the day is from a woman who was adopted by someone with borderline personality disorder, and how she should handle present-day guilt from not attempting much of a relationship with her now. Dr. Margaret stresses that we can yearn for healthy emotional closure with an ex, a parent, a friend – but they may not be capable of doing that with us, especially if they experience borderline or narcissistic personality traits.

Important links:

Audiobook of “Disarming The Narcissist”

Audiobook of “Understanding the Borderline Mother”

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