“I’m not in love with you anymore.” These are words that can bring pain, confusion — a total feeling of rejection and emotional abandonment. How do couples try to prevent this from happening? What do you need to do to stay connected and committed? What’s the one question you heed to ask yourself? Dr. Margaret shares ten ideas based on the hundreds of couples that she’s worked with personally — some very practical, some conceptual — but all do-able.

Today’s email from a listener has to do with diagnosing yourself with a mental illness, and what it means psychologically to self-harm.

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Original post on falling back in love by Dr. Margaret: HuffPost

Workbook on Dialectical Behavior Therapy