039 SelfWork: The Unique Basic Needs Of Women And Men

There’s tremendous controversy about whether or not gender differences occur as a result of cultural influence or are they innate. What’s important for this podcast isn’t how they’re created, but what influence do they have on a couple’s communication? Dr. Margaret tells about her own observations in working with couples, and shares the ideas from recent authors on the topic. Men and women are different in their basic needs. Knowing how can greatly improve your own satisfaction with your relationship. The listener email topic for today is what to do when your parents are highly controlling, and what Dr. Margaret calls, “loving conditionally.”

Important Links:

Article by Christina Hoff Sommers in The Atlantic, criticizing Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In

Article by John Tierney on gender differences: NY Times

Audible version: Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus: Dr. John Gray

How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It: Drs. Pat Love & Steve Stosny

The audible book: Toxic Parents and The Emotional Incest Syndrome

 

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